Forgotten Etiquettes

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I hope you are doing well.

If a man keeps too many people happy and helps them,  he will be mostly a lonely person in life.

-Anonymous

According to you what is a relationship, the general perception and the imagination that we get in our minds is any love song from a Bollywood movie? Well, I feel these days this is the perception towards freindships and relationships, which is according to me is totally wrong, the fact of the matter is we actually do not understand the exact meaning of it.

The main purpose of writing this blog is that I have seen people around me and I have observed that in some places it is very ordeal the way people behave and look at a boy and a girl who are just talking to each other happily.

Why do people have an affinity to talk negative when they see two people of opposite sex just trying to speak?

I was a student of psychology some years back, I had read about human behavior during particular situations, some basic takeaways were:

Some people can’t tolerate happiness and they are popularly called sadists in English, it seems when they see people speaking in gleaming happiness, it will make them feel very insecure, and the resultant reaction is just bullying in that conversation, I have observed that who bullied finally walks away from their happily, so he made his environment unhappy and drained that happiness and filled his mind with it! 

The above is one category of people, there is another whom I consider a disease to this society, and yes I am sorry if the word disease is too harsh, but I ought to use it as the situation is very grim.

This is so pathetic that people backbite and gossip so much about a guy talking to a girl and just keep on blabbering filth about them, is it because you are jealous that you could not pull away a conversation with her.

Beautiful depiction of the boomerang effect by Norman Rochwell

Purely not being sexist here but this mindset is there equally in men and women and they strive to achieve their goals and go to whatever extent possible, ok! The goal here is just breaking open the friendship and again feeling happy about it.

The Basic Etiquette

Ok, I am not a travel savvy person and maybe not having so much acumen to speak on this but; I have worked with many foreigners from America to Brazil, to China, Sydney, and the Philippines, I feel more comfortable to work with them than Indians. Yes, you might question my judgment by asking me “of course in professional life people like to stay professional and are not interested in either passing personal comments or talking about other people, I would like to counter by saying, then why we Indians eat sleep and live gossips? please tell me if you disagree with this statement this question is for all the professionals who are working in MNCs' so are we professional? are we so immature to invade someone’s personal life and are so jobless to understand who is he speaking to and whom and be judgemental about it?

Why is a man speaking to women is considered as a stigma and a great sin even now in the neo-modern era? Why shouldn’t positive things like friendship co-operation, support come up instead of people calling that man a player or that women something worse?

First try to clean your own thinking lenses in the brain so that you can think without any fog of negativeness and short-sightedness, remember life is like a boomerang it will one day definitely hit back at you, so it is better you should plan whether you want a good one or a bad one to hit you.

What I feel we all should do when we get the craving to gossip about someone or talk rot about a relationship, try to rethink about it and first of all see if that adds any value to your life if you do that other than devilish pleasure.

Thanks for your time.

Helios.

Are you Mr Nosey?

Hello reader

Hope you are doing well.

When you look at something around, you get a stream of thoughts on your mind that according to learned scholars is your basic thinking model of how your brain looks at this world.

I Will give you a small example when you look at a poster on the street of some product you may perceive what is the good feature of the commodity displayed, your friend may like the price of the, this is a simple concept that we almost aware of, but do you know the way we perceive shows our thinking model and our attitude, let us discuss more on this.

From the time in our lives we start building our perceptions about this world and foster over our own meanings we unknowingly end up in learning how the society works, how processes work and that they call “meaningfulness”.

But all good things will have cons in this case what is that, well you know humans become over smart to such an extent that they finally cheat themselves.

A small instance, you see two people talking pointing at you and laughing there is  a chance you  jump into a conclusion that they are laughing at you, in worst cases you may end up rebuke them only to embarrassed they were laughing at a banner which was just in your line of sight.

Ego is good for humans actually because without this self-personality we would lack a character, if you read the above line again there are 3 words which are synonymous yup you are right I am talking about ego, self-personality and character which one and the same.

We call ourselves adults and sometimes behave in such a way that we are not fit to be called as one.

We snoop on almost everyone possible in this world and we forget that there something even called as “minding our own business”

Why does this happen? We all have inherited this quality from our ancestors the apes they used this technique to gather food, a senior in the family used to  shout when he locates a branch full of fruits or lush green foliage this activity is called as ‘echoing’ in evolution biology hearing this call all the other family used to jump to that particular branch of the tree or to the place and share that food.

If you have noticed in big offices where there is a cubical arrangement people suddenly take their eyes of their workstations when someone makes a weird noise or a loud laugh or a cry or you hear a rubble, this is your last remaining quality of the ape in you which is still not mutated and vanished from us like the tail of an primate.

It’s about time and I seriously say it is about time, we start minding our own business try to do something meaningful, I don’t expect anyone to do something good to society atleast be good to your family and friends and yourself, that would propel you to think atleast and if you put your thinking image in the mind of the guy next door there is a hope this society will improve.

We are judging people around us without even knowing them, when we end up in this mode first let us think do they mean anything to us in our lives and also what will we get if we just snoop or gossip on someone.

Are snoopers snooping on their own pains?  Probably.

-Martin Amis-famous British Novelist.

Think again.

Thanks for your time.