Whining

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Hope you are doing well.

“Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!”

― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

ref: Inspirational Quotes (52278 quotes) - Goodreads. https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/inspirational?page=52

Do people get attracted to negativity? It is easy to say no and sleep off than to tell yes take responsibility and go for it! It is well known that people tend to be pessimistic than optimistic.

Similarly, people are used to complaining about almost everything from the time they get up in the morning, till they sleep we have made it a habit of nagging and complaining in our daily schedules.

Let us discuss, do you think our responsibility is over once we complain about a person or a system or an institution?

Is it right to complain all the time or can we also try to change the way things work?

I would want to stress on this by saying, just by a little complaint no problem will solve automatically, so what is the use of pointing fingers at people?

There is a complaint cycle which goes on in our lives which is irritating to the people around you who keep listening to you repetitively.

You know the word complaint and nag goes hand in hand, when you keep on repeating your dissatisfaction about something you don’t like it becomes a nag, people call you a nag.

 My opinion is, of course, you have the right to complain, but then there is your part as well, it is not finished once you nitpick and leave it there.

If you are dissatisfied with the way, things are not going your way you need to stand right up and work on it so that it will improve or change for good.

Or else there is no point grumpy like a jukebox all the time.

I will stop here and leave the thinking to you. Try to be more futuristic when you want to carp.

Thanks for your time.

Helios

Forgotten Etiquettes

Hello Reader

I hope you are doing well.

If a man keeps too many people happy and helps them,  he will be mostly a lonely person in life.

-Anonymous

According to you what is a relationship, the general perception and the imagination that we get in our minds is any love song from a Bollywood movie? Well, I feel these days this is the perception towards freindships and relationships, which is according to me is totally wrong, the fact of the matter is we actually do not understand the exact meaning of it.

The main purpose of writing this blog is that I have seen people around me and I have observed that in some places it is very ordeal the way people behave and look at a boy and a girl who are just talking to each other happily.

Why do people have an affinity to talk negative when they see two people of opposite sex just trying to speak?

I was a student of psychology some years back, I had read about human behavior during particular situations, some basic takeaways were:

Some people can’t tolerate happiness and they are popularly called sadists in English, it seems when they see people speaking in gleaming happiness, it will make them feel very insecure, and the resultant reaction is just bullying in that conversation, I have observed that who bullied finally walks away from their happily, so he made his environment unhappy and drained that happiness and filled his mind with it! 

The above is one category of people, there is another whom I consider a disease to this society, and yes I am sorry if the word disease is too harsh, but I ought to use it as the situation is very grim.

This is so pathetic that people backbite and gossip so much about a guy talking to a girl and just keep on blabbering filth about them, is it because you are jealous that you could not pull away a conversation with her.

Beautiful depiction of the boomerang effect by Norman Rochwell

Purely not being sexist here but this mindset is there equally in men and women and they strive to achieve their goals and go to whatever extent possible, ok! The goal here is just breaking open the friendship and again feeling happy about it.

The Basic Etiquette

Ok, I am not a travel savvy person and maybe not having so much acumen to speak on this but; I have worked with many foreigners from America to Brazil, to China, Sydney, and the Philippines, I feel more comfortable to work with them than Indians. Yes, you might question my judgment by asking me “of course in professional life people like to stay professional and are not interested in either passing personal comments or talking about other people, I would like to counter by saying, then why we Indians eat sleep and live gossips? please tell me if you disagree with this statement this question is for all the professionals who are working in MNCs' so are we professional? are we so immature to invade someone’s personal life and are so jobless to understand who is he speaking to and whom and be judgemental about it?

Why is a man speaking to women is considered as a stigma and a great sin even now in the neo-modern era? Why shouldn’t positive things like friendship co-operation, support come up instead of people calling that man a player or that women something worse?

First try to clean your own thinking lenses in the brain so that you can think without any fog of negativeness and short-sightedness, remember life is like a boomerang it will one day definitely hit back at you, so it is better you should plan whether you want a good one or a bad one to hit you.

What I feel we all should do when we get the craving to gossip about someone or talk rot about a relationship, try to rethink about it and first of all see if that adds any value to your life if you do that other than devilish pleasure.

Thanks for your time.

Helios.

Angular difference.

Hello readers

Hope you all are doing great.

Angular differences are they so important in life?  Let’s discuss it.

The story of angular difference begins even before our birth, because during the cell division the chromosomes divide in a study phase of angular differences   which finally breaks the chromosomes to make it what we are today.

The angular difference I was referring to in the above para is time!

Now why do I call it so? Because it is pointed alteration. Few blogs ago I had written about a study, which is carried on by a researcher who wants to prove that time does not exist and has proposed we all follow and define time which is actually an angular difference or the angle which changes gradually as the earth rotates , as a result we have the day and the night.

Moving away from theories and hypothesis let us talk something practical. How much is time important to all of us.

Actually I know we all know the answer for this simple question, but why  many of us fail to realize it even though we know.

This is where the falling out like maturity, realizations, late comprehensions, quick reaction and presence of mind comes into picture.

I am seeing people around me who are just living in time without any goals, what is this living in time? I consider time as a resource which is not renewable, so the more you waste this resource, oh what a loss that is!

We get guilty at times about wasting time in the past and not heeding to words from our parents or any good friends who were foreseeing our future and trying give us some good suggestions, but at that moment we were living out of time! And never got the apprehension that we have lost that interval of angular difference in this space time race!

There is a Chinese proverb which says “ the best time to plant tree was 20 years ago the next best time is now” so true isn’t it?  So suppose now you have realized it is the best time to plant the tree please goes ahead.

Realize your mistakes, say sorry to people whom you had hurt with or without knowing, move on in life make the best use of what’s left, instead of getting stuck in the worm holes of grudge, worry and living in the past  and stereotyping of your own thinking process.

“See yourself in the mirror every morning, if you are not satisfied with the image you see, that means you are not happy with your life, and you need to work on it, keeping the time you have left with.”

-Steve Jobs

Live in the present and that is the biggest challenge, when you live like this you will live in time!

Will conclude on that note, remember the angular difference is always changing and it will never stop, so better you buck up your speed and be in-sync with the speed of Time.

Thanks for your time, have a great evening ahead.