Showing posts with label family disputes motivational talk. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family disputes motivational talk. Show all posts

Sunday, 1 November 2020

The Crescent Castle

Hello readers

 

Hope all of you are doing good.

 

There are friends, and there is a family, and then there are friends who become family.

-Anonymous 

 

These times which we are going through are may those rare situations in our life where we have spent the maximum of our day at home!

 

We have actually got a drift of the life of homemakers.

 

I have understood that it is not a cakewalk, it is actually a challenge, and for all the household work, which is done, there is no pay!

 

The only thing which we can give them in return is our compassion, love and respect.

 

Just turning some pages in the book of history, there were times where a fort practiced to define the security of a colony or maybe we can call it a kingdom.

 

 A signal from a watchtower that there was a chance of intrusion, which would be confirmed later by the apparent symptoms of an invasion. The first course of action by the army was to close the doors of the fort.

 

The strength of the fort would define the power of a kingdom.

 

Transcending from those times to modern times, do forts still exist?

 

Maybe we all think, they do not, but there are still forts which are ubiquitous.

 

How can I comprehend my statement? How can I be so sure that garrisons are so common, abundant, and global?

 

We are all protected by some forces, and people let me explain:

 

When you are born, your soul becomes existent along with your body, and a personality is born, which defines you, that is your first shield or protection, you are fortified by our character.

 

Why is it the first? For a simple reason, the body and soul go hand in hand, and your soul stays with you until the end of your life on this earth, you would have heard this before, they address a dead man as "body", the reason being there is no soul in that body, it is now entered a new body.

 

Ego, people say it is a dangerous aspect in a person's life, the ego can kill you, the ego can eat up a person and turn him into a Satan.

 

But, there is a threshold of ego which should be present in each one of us, I tell you it is essential to have the personality in you, let us call it good ego which should help to guide in the right path and should stop there.

 

If that ascends into a super-ego  it is good because super-ego is the maturity of your mind to look at things in a ethical way and we value others, but ego can make you a narcissist,if you become one then , you would just be alive, and there would be no life in your living.

 

After soul, the next most protective shield in your life is  your mother, we call mother to this earth, and we see her as the best symbol of forgiveness, across all species which are present on earth, she imbibes qualities which are noble and wise.

 

Wolf families are considered the second most empathetic in the world, first place goes to elephants (Courtesy google images)

 

In the ancient language of Sanskrit, there is a quotation called 'kshmaya Dharitri' which means have patience like earth.

 

The earth has taken so many misdeeds of we humans, but it has forgiven us and allowed us to live. Similarly, your mother withstands and sustains all the mental injuries you cause her in your anger, in your pain and sadness yet welcomes you with a smiling face.

 

That is the grace of your mother, she is the only person who can do that, that is the bond which exists between you and your mother.

 

A father too is equally complementing and has the grace, so these two people in your life are very unique, immaterial of how you treat them, they are the same with since the day you were born. They remain the same until their end if you feel they changed its actually you who has changed not them, meditate on this thought, I think you will come to an agreement with my statement. 

 

Of course, there is this bitter fact that there are bad parents too in this world, me being an optimist, only hopes, we can change them into a new leaf with our love and some right words each day.

 

So, can we now say that there are forts which exist in this world, and can we name that fort as "family" a "brotherhood." a beautiful "friendship."? 

 

Please respect, protect and believe in your parents, if you are lucky you might be blessed with equally loving siblings, yes, I would definitely say only if you are fortunate! And few beautiful friends who are real angels who are selfless and unconditional and help you and comfort you when you most need it.

 

The castle is now complete!

 

It is up to you to protect, love and respect this fort now, which is always ready to protect you.

 

In every conceivable manner, your family is the link to the past and the bridge to your future.

-Maatie Kalokoh

 

 There are the only people who know to accept you the way you are and who love you unconditionally for what you are.

 

Thanks a lot for your time.

 

Helios.

 

Monday, 30 October 2017

Ruckus

Hello Readers

How are you today?

I want to share a short story today, this one is not too ancient or too modern it is just what happens in present day, even though I have seen people go through this I would like to trace it out as a story.I Feel it is very important for this message to go out to as many people as possible.

The region of Madikeri also famously is a very famous and beautiful place in Karnataka, there lived a family in the midst of a coffee estate.

It is the family of Mr. Varma who is a successful businessman in the food processing industry.

Maya is  22 years old,  who is Mr. Varma’s daughter who wishes to crack the UPSC exam and wants to serve the Indian administration services.MR Varma’s wife is a homemaker trying to support the family in the best way possible.

So things are working out for this family with new hopes of Mr. Varma to make more profits, his daughter who hopes to clear her exam and so on. But as you know life is like cycle definitely there would be ups and downs!

Similarly, this family started facing issues which started off Mr. Varma’s business taking a U-turn due to certain corrections in the market of this product and some of his key employees quitting his business.

As some of us would be aware there is lot competition in the food processing industry and these were testing times for Mr. Varma.

The repel effect is always not good, in this family it played a key role in setting or rather changing the environment of the house, the house usually gaily and cheerful but now it turned out rather a mellow and dull place due to the pressures of Mr. Varma's  business.

Things became worse when Mr.Varma developed a bad taste for alcohol and started coming home drunk and started behaving in an inappropriate manner destroying the inner peace of Maya and her mother, who were very concerned about him.

Maya whose preparation for the exam was going well could not concentrate now and felt depressed and weak, even though her mother kept her motivated, she failed that exam.


There ends the story! Sorry if you think if it was abrupt, but the message I wanted to convey was told so I just wanted to end it there, so what is the message? Here goes.

A family is like an institution where there is something which goes on a daily basis and in the present scenario a joint family is not to be found very easily and even the nuclear families are like with maximum of four people in a typical case, if there a distortions in the normal flow of thoughts and understanding patterns in a house it will become a huge mental setback for people of the family who more simple or kind  at mind.

The Department of Domestic Violence and family disputes Prevention, USA says half of the families face problems due to parents! Please don’t take me wrong that I am trying to corner parents here, the kids are equally responsible so that other half of the graph is shared by them.

But in the above story which I shared, it is the case where an ambitious aspirant for one of the most difficult exams in the world was doing good and focused, unfortunately, she could succeed due to the lack of mental support at home.

So I would like to push this message to all those parents out there who love their kids, maintain decorum in the front of your kids, please don’t lose your temper in front of them make them feel uncomfortable instead build confidence in their minds, if you have your personal issues or with your wife or husband try to solve it by yourself, until your children are ready to take the heat and help you swim out of it. Stop setting wrong examples in your kid's mind.

In India, family counseling is still considered as the last step as we hesitate to share our personal pains to a stranger, but I tell you it is most required and helps keep a health check of your family bonding.

Let me know your opinion on this blog.

The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.

Thanks a lot for your time, have a great week ahead.

Regards
Helios.

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