Showing posts with label parent and child frictions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parent and child frictions. Show all posts

Sunday, 1 November 2020

The Crescent Castle

Hello readers

 

Hope all of you are doing good.

 

There are friends, and there is a family, and then there are friends who become family.

-Anonymous 

 

These times which we are going through are may those rare situations in our life where we have spent the maximum of our day at home!

 

We have actually got a drift of the life of homemakers.

 

I have understood that it is not a cakewalk, it is actually a challenge, and for all the household work, which is done, there is no pay!

 

The only thing which we can give them in return is our compassion, love and respect.

 

Just turning some pages in the book of history, there were times where a fort practiced to define the security of a colony or maybe we can call it a kingdom.

 

 A signal from a watchtower that there was a chance of intrusion, which would be confirmed later by the apparent symptoms of an invasion. The first course of action by the army was to close the doors of the fort.

 

The strength of the fort would define the power of a kingdom.

 

Transcending from those times to modern times, do forts still exist?

 

Maybe we all think, they do not, but there are still forts which are ubiquitous.

 

How can I comprehend my statement? How can I be so sure that garrisons are so common, abundant, and global?

 

We are all protected by some forces, and people let me explain:

 

When you are born, your soul becomes existent along with your body, and a personality is born, which defines you, that is your first shield or protection, you are fortified by our character.

 

Why is it the first? For a simple reason, the body and soul go hand in hand, and your soul stays with you until the end of your life on this earth, you would have heard this before, they address a dead man as "body", the reason being there is no soul in that body, it is now entered a new body.

 

Ego, people say it is a dangerous aspect in a person's life, the ego can kill you, the ego can eat up a person and turn him into a Satan.

 

But, there is a threshold of ego which should be present in each one of us, I tell you it is essential to have the personality in you, let us call it good ego which should help to guide in the right path and should stop there.

 

If that ascends into a super-ego  it is good because super-ego is the maturity of your mind to look at things in a ethical way and we value others, but ego can make you a narcissist,if you become one then , you would just be alive, and there would be no life in your living.

 

After soul, the next most protective shield in your life is  your mother, we call mother to this earth, and we see her as the best symbol of forgiveness, across all species which are present on earth, she imbibes qualities which are noble and wise.

 

Wolf families are considered the second most empathetic in the world, first place goes to elephants (Courtesy google images)

 

In the ancient language of Sanskrit, there is a quotation called 'kshmaya Dharitri' which means have patience like earth.

 

The earth has taken so many misdeeds of we humans, but it has forgiven us and allowed us to live. Similarly, your mother withstands and sustains all the mental injuries you cause her in your anger, in your pain and sadness yet welcomes you with a smiling face.

 

That is the grace of your mother, she is the only person who can do that, that is the bond which exists between you and your mother.

 

A father too is equally complementing and has the grace, so these two people in your life are very unique, immaterial of how you treat them, they are the same with since the day you were born. They remain the same until their end if you feel they changed its actually you who has changed not them, meditate on this thought, I think you will come to an agreement with my statement. 

 

Of course, there is this bitter fact that there are bad parents too in this world, me being an optimist, only hopes, we can change them into a new leaf with our love and some right words each day.

 

So, can we now say that there are forts which exist in this world, and can we name that fort as "family" a "brotherhood." a beautiful "friendship."? 

 

Please respect, protect and believe in your parents, if you are lucky you might be blessed with equally loving siblings, yes, I would definitely say only if you are fortunate! And few beautiful friends who are real angels who are selfless and unconditional and help you and comfort you when you most need it.

 

The castle is now complete!

 

It is up to you to protect, love and respect this fort now, which is always ready to protect you.

 

In every conceivable manner, your family is the link to the past and the bridge to your future.

-Maatie Kalokoh

 

 There are the only people who know to accept you the way you are and who love you unconditionally for what you are.

 

Thanks a lot for your time.

 

Helios.

 

Saturday, 25 February 2017

Tutelage

Hello readers

Hope you all are fine

All children have gifts; some open them in different times.
-Patricia Polacco

I wanted to write about this topic from a long, finally I got the all the points wanted to cover.

What according to all of us is a career? is it just that you finish your graduation in the field you like and end up in a job?  Or is it a place where you want to explore yourself in an industry or an institute and money is a one of the components to the service you render.

We invest our time and money for the first 16 -20 years of your lives in education.
After that we end up in jobs.

In India I see there is trend of monotony which has become more as the years are rolling in.

It has become a cycle since the IT boom that everyone who is anyone wants to end up in a predictable job which will give him some quick bucks and self –content.

There is no one who is anymore thinking education as a means of knowledge, I have heard people telling they treat education as an investment and expect the money they spent on fees to be paid back in their first salary!


Parents
I have seen parents still considering arts and humanities a non-preferable option for their kids who want to pursue the same!

I mean are we serious, do we even know the most paid jobs   in the world are in the fields of arts and hotel management?

I feel if you get a less paid job which would satisfy you that moment is best than you working in a white collared job which pays a million dollar minus the happiness.

So parents have to consider the aspirations of the children and which career they want to explore and opt for, rather than what they want their kids to do.

There is a big myth and misconception in India that the people who choose art or other careers out of the normal are failures or dullards; sorry this is not the mindset we need to follow.

In that way I appreciate the foreigners who respect art and culture as much they respect science and technology.

I am writing on this all important topic at the time of year where all the major exams happen and I wish all the students all the best and want them to fare well in these exams.

And I hope the parents will stop feeling insecure about their wards careers and respect their children’s aspirations and help them find their path to success.

Which will lead to a more matured society?

Thanks for your time.

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