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How are you today?

I want to share a short story today, this one is not too ancient or too modern it is just what happens in present day, even though I have seen people go through this I would like to trace it out as a story.I Feel it is very important for this message to go out to as many people as possible.

The region of Madikeri also famously is a very famous and beautiful place in Karnataka, there lived a family in the midst of a coffee estate.

It is the family of Mr. Varma who is a successful businessman in the food processing industry.

Maya is  22 years old,  who is Mr. Varma’s daughter who wishes to crack the UPSC exam and wants to serve the Indian administration services.MR Varma’s wife is a homemaker trying to support the family in the best way possible.

So things are working out for this family with new hopes of Mr. Varma to make more profits, his daughter who hopes to clear her exam and so on. But as you know life is like cycle definitely there would be ups and downs!

Similarly, this family started facing issues which started off Mr. Varma’s business taking a U-turn due to certain corrections in the market of this product and some of his key employees quitting his business.

As some of us would be aware there is lot competition in the food processing industry and these were testing times for Mr. Varma.

The repel effect is always not good, in this family it played a key role in setting or rather changing the environment of the house, the house usually gaily and cheerful but now it turned out rather a mellow and dull place due to the pressures of Mr. Varma's  business.

Things became worse when Mr.Varma developed a bad taste for alcohol and started coming home drunk and started behaving in an inappropriate manner destroying the inner peace of Maya and her mother, who were very concerned about him.

Maya whose preparation for the exam was going well could not concentrate now and felt depressed and weak, even though her mother kept her motivated, she failed that exam.

There ends the story! Sorry if you think if it was abrupt, but the message I wanted to convey was told so I just wanted to end it there, so what is the message? Here goes.

A family is like an institution where there is something which goes on a daily basis and in the present scenario a joint family is not to be found very easily and even the nuclear families are like with maximum of four people in a typical case, if there a distortions in the normal flow of thoughts and understanding patterns in a house it will become a huge mental setback for people of the family who more simple or kind  at mind.

The Department of Domestic Violence and family disputes Prevention, USA says half of the families face problems due to parents! Please don’t take me wrong that I am trying to corner parents here, the kids are equally responsible so that other half of the graph is shared by them.

But in the above story which I shared, it is the case where an ambitious aspirant for one of the most difficult exams in the world was doing good and focused, unfortunately, she could succeed due to the lack of mental support at home.

So I would like to push this message to all those parents out there who love their kids, maintain decorum in the front of your kids, please don’t lose your temper in front of them make them feel uncomfortable instead build confidence in their minds, if you have your personal issues or with your wife or husband try to solve it by yourself, until your children are ready to take the heat and help you swim out of it. Stop setting wrong examples in your kid's mind.

In India, family counseling is still considered as the last step as we hesitate to share our personal pains to a stranger, but I tell you it is most required and helps keep a health check of your family bonding.

Let me know your opinion on this blog.

The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.

Thanks a lot for your time, have a great week ahead.

Regards

Helios.