The counsellor

Hello readers 

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us.

-H. Jackson Brown, Jr. 

Hope you all are doing well. We all live effectively for 40 odd years, surprised? see what Muhammad Ali had to say on life!

 "You live first 10 years of life just to make sense of it, next 15 in your own hitch ups and then move to marital life or any other life so these 40 years are the one which actually count".

He continues to say what you give back to this society in these 40 years is what matters.

Have you visited a counsellor  anytime?  not only for depression or issues relating to your mind, even for educational purposes we visit them, to estimate in which aspect we have the aptitude.

Well that is one way of looking at that profession there is another way this profession is taken into, that is ethical or social counseling.

What is ethical counselling? It  mainly deals with the fine tuning of some moral principles and values which the person is not aware of or has failed to follow due to various factors like personal issues or societal issues.

Social counselling specifically looks at more personal problems of individual, like issues in his family or whatever difficulties he faces on a daily basis when he wants to communicate with people.

Those are the basic definitions of ethical and social counselling.

But there is actually a counsellor within you,  have ever observed for yourself?

It is the same voice which speaks to you when you are angry and tries to calm you down, when you are happy makes you laugh and also try to share it with friends and benefactors.

So who is this sitting inside you and trying to always keep you stable, it is your own intellect, your mind or soul whatever you want to call it.

Among the families across the world, Indian families are considered one of the most successful families no doubt it is true our marraige is a very well planned instituation, but at the same time it has its own problems.

Indians suffer from the problem of ego, and that is almost one of the most damaging factors in a family.

A scientist in Russia once said, family is just like community living where everyone will be provided with similar luxuries and eat at a  common place and mostly the family is best when it is a joint family because it would have various senior people to advise the inexperienced emerging fathers, is how he puts it in his book family: An industry.

But as time has passed the joint family concept in India stands at all time low, so the nuclear families have taken over, but due to egoistic elements in these families we see many traumatic incidents within the family which any member has to bare the brunt. The reason it happens is may be due to the person  is not  considerate to others in the family may have had a rough childhood or he is totally ignorant and arrogant.

Is there a solution of this growing problem which seriously mentally drains other people in the family? and having a direct impact on the future generations.

Of course yes, first the person should think for a while is it correct to do  what he is doing? To him and others this is the self-counselling he should do or others would motivate him to do.

The most important role would be of that particular person in  that family, who has the zeal and the charisma to impress the person in question and help him understand his problems.

This internal Counsellor is present in almost all families and I am telling they are the people who can take the maximum stress and push the family towards heights of success.

I salute to all these special people for being matured at the right moment and help the people around them to ease them in a grim situation caused by someone's silly and stupid behavior for silly things.

So as Mohammad Ali the great boxer said concentrate on those 40 years, what will you do in life other than frowning, grumbling, blaming and making people around you feel sad for your behavior.

Thanks for your valuable time. Adios!

Live happy  always.