Help-A perspective

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How are you today?

Each day is a new realization like a caterpillar develops colors in the cocoon which it is not aware and finally when it comes out as a butterfly amazes itself and you with its colors!

-Michael Jackson

These are the days of realization for many of us because if you take the human life, the prime age of 20 till 40 shapes what we will end up as after these years. The point is how many of us are ready to realize this?

It's again an illusion which makes us feel there is still time for us to do what we want to but we forget, time just runs away in front of us like a bullet train and we miss it each time because of we just too slow to catch the speed of that train.

Can you lead a life without this word?  “help”.

If you ask me, I being a realistic and optimistic person I would say “no” it is impossible.

Look at the history book there are only a few people in this world who can beat their heart and say “I am totally independent” I would imagine in India it would be some monks on the top of the Himalayas who have explored the physical abilities of their body and brain beyond normal human beings.

It is a well-known fact that we are dependent on someone from the moment we are born until we end it.

How can I be so sure that I am confident to say that we always expect help, let me prove my point in the following paragraphs?

The day we are born we were fortunate enough to be taken care by our parents and the nurse at the hospital then the doctor who helped you in the maternity and next your dad who felicitated the whole process financially and morally and from then on till today you were fortunate to have a family happy or sad, you are part of it and realize one day the importance of it.

The helpers

According to me all the service providers in your life are fit to be called helpers at the end of the day if you say they are just doing it for money or you paid them to render that service it does not matter, because it requires a bent of service-mindedness to help someone sacrificing his own time for you.

This whole blog I have kept time as a reference, how much time a person lost of his own to help the other person that is the greatness of people who wish to help, you may return him a favour for his help but time lost is gone! so we need to show latest minimum gratitude for the help we got.

The words like “thank you” and “you are very kind” simply did not just come up with the evolution of vocabulary; it would have been used by people who seek help when they were in distress.

I have experienced helping is a very nice feeling but definitely, conditions apply.

Why do I say conditions apply because if you help without expectation it very pure to your heart and you enjoy the bliss, otherwise you will have a sour or sometimes a bitter taste of expectation hitting you back of your heart and making you feel uneasy?

The obvious

Some obvious feeling felt when we help people is: First of all we feel good about that we helped them, initially the expectation of a return help will arise, which you would not get and you might go tell to a friend about what happened and feel sad about that you helped that person in this crisis, but did not get anything in return and 2 you might stop helping which means the selfishness in you kicked in!

The last sentence of the last para will break you, so if you want to help never expect returns that way you move one step ahead towards higher thinking.

The society

Oh! What a cruel and low minded society we live in, a true disaster and the most disgusting part is, they are all sadists who can’t stand people helping each other and start gossiping about that too! Grow up the great jobless people of all times.

To conclude my blog for those who think it was a confusing one, help is a universal instrument which was presented to us by cosmic forces to in short God,  just like water and air and it is required not only among humans but also within humans and animals and vice versa, be open-hearted and never stop helping for a good cause, and society what society?read what Mother Theresa said about the society she said I quote “helping arms are better than speaking lips” I think that says it all.

Think big do something that will change the perspective of you after you leave this earth for higher purposes and let people remember you forever and repent if they were unjust and unreasonable to you, help with the spirit of Karma yoga, and feel the satisfaction which is like no other.

Never give up.

Thanks for your time.

Helios.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              

Forgotten Etiquettes

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I hope you are doing well.

If a man keeps too many people happy and helps them,  he will be mostly a lonely person in life.

-Anonymous

According to you what is a relationship, the general perception and the imagination that we get in our minds is any love song from a Bollywood movie? Well, I feel these days this is the perception towards freindships and relationships, which is according to me is totally wrong, the fact of the matter is we actually do not understand the exact meaning of it.

The main purpose of writing this blog is that I have seen people around me and I have observed that in some places it is very ordeal the way people behave and look at a boy and a girl who are just talking to each other happily.

Why do people have an affinity to talk negative when they see two people of opposite sex just trying to speak?

I was a student of psychology some years back, I had read about human behavior during particular situations, some basic takeaways were:

Some people can’t tolerate happiness and they are popularly called sadists in English, it seems when they see people speaking in gleaming happiness, it will make them feel very insecure, and the resultant reaction is just bullying in that conversation, I have observed that who bullied finally walks away from their happily, so he made his environment unhappy and drained that happiness and filled his mind with it! 

The above is one category of people, there is another whom I consider a disease to this society, and yes I am sorry if the word disease is too harsh, but I ought to use it as the situation is very grim.

This is so pathetic that people backbite and gossip so much about a guy talking to a girl and just keep on blabbering filth about them, is it because you are jealous that you could not pull away a conversation with her.

Beautiful depiction of the boomerang effect by Norman Rochwell

Purely not being sexist here but this mindset is there equally in men and women and they strive to achieve their goals and go to whatever extent possible, ok! The goal here is just breaking open the friendship and again feeling happy about it.

The Basic Etiquette

Ok, I am not a travel savvy person and maybe not having so much acumen to speak on this but; I have worked with many foreigners from America to Brazil, to China, Sydney, and the Philippines, I feel more comfortable to work with them than Indians. Yes, you might question my judgment by asking me “of course in professional life people like to stay professional and are not interested in either passing personal comments or talking about other people, I would like to counter by saying, then why we Indians eat sleep and live gossips? please tell me if you disagree with this statement this question is for all the professionals who are working in MNCs' so are we professional? are we so immature to invade someone’s personal life and are so jobless to understand who is he speaking to and whom and be judgemental about it?

Why is a man speaking to women is considered as a stigma and a great sin even now in the neo-modern era? Why shouldn’t positive things like friendship co-operation, support come up instead of people calling that man a player or that women something worse?

First try to clean your own thinking lenses in the brain so that you can think without any fog of negativeness and short-sightedness, remember life is like a boomerang it will one day definitely hit back at you, so it is better you should plan whether you want a good one or a bad one to hit you.

What I feel we all should do when we get the craving to gossip about someone or talk rot about a relationship, try to rethink about it and first of all see if that adds any value to your life if you do that other than devilish pleasure.

Thanks for your time.

Helios.

Mistreatment of impeccability

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There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.

-Denis Waitley

Good day! This blog is actually one among my life experiences, and what I have learned and understood by looking around.The time which we are living today has depleted when compared to the value systems which we had some 20 years ago, even though I am not denying the fact that even at that time there were some black spots, now those spots have changed into a cluster.

There is this famous saying “when money is lost something is lost, but when character lost everything is lost” now I hear sometimes on corporate meetings or you know in satire comedy shows, “If the character is lost nothing is lost, but if money is lost everything is lost!”.

Where are we heading? is there still anything called innocence left? Has everyone become smart in an evil way and aimed at only materialism?

You know this psychology which is going on in India, well not only India even the rest of the world there is a significant increase in materialism and character paralysis which is an epidemic.

What is character paralysis? it is according to me compromising too much of his own self for the sake of society or people or jobs or so on.

But there is a new culture which has come up I would like to call it the art of making people work for you the way it would work out and finally when all that was wanted is done just trashing them like a used tissue.

How many of you have experienced this? I would say yes! If you take a crowd of 100 people I am sure at least 50% of the people would have gone through this.

You would have met this colleague or your classmate who suddenly becomes very close to you and you would also like spending time with him or her and then the list of help and requests begins and finally one day you would realize that unfortunately you were taken advantage of and feel bad about it, when already that person would be already preying on his or her  next victim.

If any of you reading this blog have come across such situations, people and were victims to this cheap act,  do not feel bad  because the person who was responsible would one day again end up with someone more smarter than he or she might  also become victims some other day so do not feel bad, life is a wheel so its only matter of spinning.

Before I end what do we get in becoming parasites on somebody or manipulating someone for our own gains?  this will eventually lead to remorse when all the strength in your body has decreased and you need someone to help you. Live true to your heart take account of how you live, I am not here to ask you to set examples but expect you to maintain a minimum decorum.

Thanks for your time let me know your views in the comment box.

Helios