Animosity

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Hope you all are doing well.

Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting other person to die!

-Gautama Buddha

The beauty of life is we never realize the suffering which happens to a fellow right next to you and will not realize it may happen to you the next day, because for the simple reason your ego won’t let you go, and always keeps you pumped up and you would be in a delusion, until one day the reality unveils.

Let’s talk about weaknesses today, all creatures on this earth have some weaknesses actually it is programmed like that otherwise the whole world would be a chaos is what I can imagine.

For instance if look at an ant it has an excellent signaling system which is regarded as the best communication in the world  through its antennas and pheromones, but still the ant is very weak, just a stamp from bigger creatures leg would kill it.

Similarly the elephant is a gigantic animal with great strength and ability but still we the humans from ages have tamed this animal and are using it in war and for work.

So the point here is every creature in this world has both a ability and a weakness, humans have emotions, our vocal skills and the power to think which we think is the highest form of evolution.

But definitely we do have our own weaknesses; I want to discuss about one such weakness today, which is anger.

We have been fuming with people and with ourselves from time to time let us understand what makes us feel agitated.

In our brain the temporal lobe, the frontal lobe and also the parietal lobe involves functions which help in language and deciding what to speak.

The frontal lobe has a function of shaping personality and mood, and this is the one which triggers anger or laughter.

Let us take a simple situation you are in a workplace trying to work and your colleague has logged in along with you are  busy with your work, after sometime a 3^rd colleague logs in he is a chatterbox  and won’t stop blabbering  and start working, initially you like to talk only for some time, after that you continue working. But this person won’t stop and  he continues to speak.

That is the moment your frontal lobe starts getting annoyed and your mood will turn from green, to amber and finally red.

Why does this happen? Very simple it works on the newton’s third law of motion every action has an equal and opposite reaction, here the motion is of brain waves stress hormones, reached high-level to the incoming irrelevant information and produces nerve impulses and hormones which make you feel annoyed.

When you were working without disturbance you were concentrating on a single task, but then your peer started the process of distraction and you fell for it, initially enjoying it but later your concentration level on the job lowered and there is also a possibility you did not like something which he told.

Finally you ended up telling him to either mind his own business or stop talking both of you had a red faced day.

This is where annoyance management comes into picture, great saints like Vivekananda, Ramakrishna and Buddha were known to be as strong as a boulder to people who used to provoke them, and I think we need to keep such personalities as examples.

Anger is a dangerous emotion it blacks out your consciousness and you will not be aware of what you do if what you said at that time which may hurt some people you end up feeling a gripe for yourself and may be reacted in the same way when you are with your family for no fault of them. Always remember anger quickly spreads.

Let’s wash off all the anger from our body, keep calm always like it says in the series of keep calm cards.

When you see annoying people around the best thing is to switch of your mind towards them and concentrate on what you are doing.

Try to stay less emotional in life then you would see a more balanced part of yourself. Stop taking personal jokes too seriously and do not create personal grudge on anyone in any walk of your life because it does not take you anywhere.

Laughter is the best medicine is what I feel.

Thanks a lot for your time.

Tutelage

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Hope you all are fine

All children have gifts; some open them in different times.

-Patricia Polacco

I wanted to write about this topic from a long, finally I got the all the points wanted to cover.

What according to all of us is a career? is it just that you finish your graduation in the field you like and end up in a job?  Or is it a place where you want to explore yourself in an industry or an institute and money is a one of the components to the service you render.

We invest our time and money for the first 16 -20 years of your lives in education.

After that we end up in jobs.

In India I see there is trend of monotony which has become more as the years are rolling in.

It has become a cycle since the IT boom that everyone who is anyone wants to end up in a predictable job which will give him some quick bucks and self –content.

There is no one who is anymore thinking education as a means of knowledge, I have heard people telling they treat education as an investment and expect the money they spent on fees to be paid back in their first salary!

Parents

I have seen parents still considering arts and humanities a non-preferable option for their kids who want to pursue the same!

I mean are we serious, do we even know the most paid jobs   in the world are in the fields of arts and hotel management?

I feel if you get a less paid job which would satisfy you that moment is best than you working in a white collared job which pays a million dollar minus the happiness.

So parents have to consider the aspirations of the children and which career they want to explore and opt for, rather than what they want their kids to do.

There is a big myth and misconception in India that the people who choose art or other careers out of the normal are failures or dullards; sorry this is not the mindset we need to follow.

In that way I appreciate the foreigners who respect art and culture as much they respect science and technology.

I am writing on this all important topic at the time of year where all the major exams happen and I wish all the students all the best and want them to fare well in these exams.

And I hope the parents will stop feeling insecure about their wards careers and respect their children’s aspirations and help them find their path to success.

Which will lead to a more matured society?

Thanks for your time.

Frown City

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Hope you all are doing well

Spend more time smiling than frowning and more praising than critizing

-Richard Branson

There is this one story which I want to recollect, it is one of my childhood stories , which was narrated by my teacher it is called the “Frown Town”.

Of course this was fairy tale, but still it gave me some valuable lessons which I follow even now.

Let me tell you that story:

There was this land so far away from the city that hardly anyone knew it did exist.

Until one day one of the men came to the city and requested help from a doctor that, one of among his group was  bitten by a snake and the victim was a small lad of about 10 years of age, the doctor with all his concern followed the man into their tiny township where everyone greeted him and bowed to him, as in those days doctors were considered as messengers of God who were sent by the almighty himself.

Well the doctor saw this boy who was already half blue from his feet, and immediately instructed the people to shift him to a hospital in the city.

The people followed the doctor’s advice and the kid was saved after a team of special doctors attended to the case and successfully could bring out all the venom from the Boy’s body.

The people of Frown town were overwhelmed by the gratitude and care the doctor took to help save their kid.

From then on the people of the small distant town had developed gratitude towards the doctor and his team and they used to travel to the city and give all the doctors their agro produce and handicrafts .

But the doctor had always one question to the mayor of the city but feared asking him.

And that was the facial expression of that town was always ‘Frown’ and the name too.

But the clinician feared asking about it, as he feared he may lose his good will with the town.

Time passed, and the season of harvest was just round the corner and the boy whom the medics had saved informed all the heads of his tiny town to call all the doctors as mark of gratitude, everyone readily agreed and called them.

It was a great feast at the end, the village head man asked the guests if  they wanted know anything from the village, like the history of the place or anything for that matter.

All the doctors looked at each other and were thinking the same, to ask them the question about the name of the town and why they frowned all the time.

Finally against all odds one of the medics made up his mind and asked the host that question.

The moment this was asked there was great silence in the remote land, and everyone started glaring at the doctors, then they looked too sad and they told them this was a spell cast by one of their fore-fathers, when the whole town was bursting with laughter at senior man who had fallen in muddy waters.

Since he was witch doctor he called the forces and casted a spell which made all of us to forget how to laugh!

But the doctors told them not to believe in such things and try to laugh, but the villagers told him that if they try to laugh they would be bitten by serpents, that was how the young boy was caught explained the boy’s mother.

But the doctors were still not convinced and did not believe that something like this could happen.

So they advised the village head-man to perform a simple test which will prove that the spell is not working, since the village head man was a responsible person, he agreed to try it on only himself.

So the test was simple: the subject would be confined to a room where there will be protected vents only for air and he should try to laugh there.

So mayor of the village was taken to the hospital’s secured ward where they used to treat sensitive patients and was asked to laugh.

After few minutes, he came out shouting miracle, miracle! I could laugh, and he spread the message to his village and the whole village tried the same exercise.

Finally they were convinced the spell was over and they laughed their hearts out.

When they asked the doctor how did he erase the spell the doctor replied: “My dear people all the spells or the curses are in your mind, what you believe is actioned by your mind without you knowing it what I did was purely logical to make you come out of your false belief and in the case of that boy who was bitten by the snake in the grass it was sheer co-incidence.”

So the moral I took from the above story is that, we can believe in good things and always have hope and smile instead of frown, which will not get us anywhere.

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

-Abraham Lincoln

Stop being a grouch to yourself and the people around you, Let us smile from today and feel light, and help others also to smile.

Thanks for your time have a nice day.

Work Death

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Hope you all are doing well.

       A rapist has no age to treat him as a juvenile, just hang him

      -Napoleon Bonaparte.

It has been Seventy years since we got freedom but I still feel we have not got it yet.

I have an explanation to my above statement, we have still not got freedom, from our own temptation, our own bad desires, and our brains till today have inclination towards enjoying the darker side of society, like mafia, lobby and disrespecting women.

India was  known as the knowledge centers at a time when still the rest of the world were still trying to make sense of this world, the Average Indian knew this world from metallurgy to commerce and biology.

Alas, what a tragedy the bell curve of India is in such a bad shape now that it is very sad for an Indian who realizes the depletion in the maturity levels of Indians and it will definitely hurt him.

Some news I hear these days  get me  chills, and keep wondering how did our county of heroes and Yogis like Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa and Sri Vivekananda become the land which lacks values.

I am not exaggerating this fact but, recently when I read about the news of a 27 year old IT professional strangled by a security guard who works for her own company (INFOSYS), I was in shock.

I do not want to get into the discussion of from which place the security guard was born and brought up.

But looking  at the  root of the problem, I feel the meaning of values have gone through the drains and have been forgotten forever.

I also want to question INFOSYS team responsible for internal security  on what basis do they hire such guards? do they even do any background checks?

Whatever investigations and the steps now the firm takes  according to me is useless to a certain extent, because the life of a women who wanted to earn her living in a legitimate way is gone.

The reason that life is gone is unacceptable! Because someone did not know the manners and could not control his desire she was the prey! I mean how anyone can justify this, it is unjust and absurd. 

Of Course it is totally unfair, what is the point of worshipping so many goddesses in the temples when you don’t want to practice it in real life.

Some people say women are at fault as they wear provocative dresses! Oh come on, where is your character when you make such statements, so you have agreed that you are so weak? and imbecile inside that you get carried away from situations just like that?

Let me blame the movies to a certain extent, because some of the scenes shown again and again across languages do seem provocative at times but, come-on it is just a movie.

There is nothing one can do to justify what has happened it is just the sadness that this Indian society has come down to such a low light!

Imagine, the police say, she was killed for objecting to staring and stalking by the security guard.

I don't know what to comment i am just sad ! and my heart reaches out to the family and I pray for the departed soul.

This devilish crime as published in Huffington post just think; this is how India is portrayed globally now!

RIP: Rasila Raju OP

Woman Infosys Employee Strangled To Death by a Computer Wire in Pune Office

PUNE -- A 26-year-old security guard has been apprehended in connection with the murder of a 23-year-old woman IT professional from Infosys, who was found dead last night in a conference room of the company in Rajiv Gandhi Infotech Park at Hinjawadi here, police said on Monday.

"On the basis of the CCTV footage from the company premises and other clues, we zeroed down on a security guard from Assam, who after the incident, fled and now has been held in Mumbai," said Arun Waikar, the senior police inspector with Hinjawadi Police Station.

The suspect has been identified as Bhabhen Saikia, who was deployed as a guard at the Infosys unit, and is being brought to Pune, he said.

OP Rasila from Kerala, who was working as a system engineer with Infosys was found dead after she was allegedly strangulated with the help of a computer cord and was hit hard on the face, police said.

She was allegedly strangulated with the help of a computer cord and was hit hard on the face.

According to police, the incident might have taken place at around 5 PM, but police received the call around 8 PM last night.

ACP Vaishali Jadhav-Mane had told last night that the techie was working in the conference room on the ninth floor of Infosys's Phase-II campus whereas her two team mates were online from Bangalore.

"Her manager was trying to call her, but there was no response. He then called and asked a security guard to go and check, and when the security guard went to see her, the woman was found lying on the floor in an unconscious state in the conference room," the officer had said.

An offence has been registered under the section of 302 (murder) and further investigation is on, said police adding the process of post mortem is underway.

-courtesy Huffington post

The solutions.

ü  The law should be stronger in India, and there should be only punishment for such culprits, death.

ü  Stop the traditional ways of dragging the cases for years together and branding the criminals as juveniles and adults. 

ü  Request to all the cinema directors to stop producing only love stories and competing with other colleagues to show bold scenes, rather produce some movies to show good message rather than only what is shown now. please always don't think about revenue only when you produce movies, please realise you are impacting society when you show your movies on a big screen.

ü  The government should take keen interest in providing proper sex-education to all the children below the age of 14 . The judicial system should be ruthless and punish the culprits, so that the others who think about doing such shameful act gets some awareness.

ü  The basic Indian mentality of feeling ordeal when talking about sex education and other topics should change.

ü  MNCs’ should stop thinking about cost saving while outsourcing security and vigilante services to many trendy companies which give attractive discounts when their services are availed annually and do necessary background verifications, before giving the contract.

The strongest force in nature is not gravity but attraction of cells

-Robert Cook, the first cell biologist.

Let us all  as individuals also take responsibility to make this a healthy society and bring the fame back to India.

Jai Hind.

Thanks a lot for your time, have a good week ahead.

Hocus Pocus

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Reality is what you make it.

-Dynamo magician (Steven Frayne) one of the few magicians who is in the magic circle.

They are certain moments, which you have experienced that just makes you wonder how it happened and you would like to see it again and again with a hope to find out the secret behind how it works.

Magic is one such thing which has always astonished anyone for that matter, because it cheats the laws of physics and presents a trick in front you which makes you feel stunned and happy seeing the overt talent of the performer.

Apart from the trick of cards and the various tricks which are usually presented, there are many other tricks which are not performed by magicians but it is happening naturally inside your body and around us.

Let me start with some simple instances, a small kid running towards his or her dad when he comes back from work, that is the magic of pure love, a dog jumping on when he see its owner that is the magic of unconditional love.

Recently I had a minor sinus infection, when I consulted my doctor who is a specialist in ENT and other Ear, Nose and throat related diseases, and he prescribed me an antibiotic: a medicine which inhibits the growth of microbes, and reduces infection.

I have been taking anti-biotics from my childhood but not frequently, but when the situation goes out of hand I have some major infections or minor ones to the sensitive parts like the sinuses and so on.

But this time when I analyzed the situation about the drug action, I felt this was real magic.

Just think you went and proposed your problem with your doctor and he prescribed a solution which was to the point and so accurate that I was fit as a fiddle after 5 days! There are millions of kinds of antibiotics for almost any disease on this earth.

I acknowledge the fact that, these drugs do have their side effects. But still there was time when people did not have any solutions to deadly diseases, which were eventually eradicated by the great minds; the famous example is the small pox and whooping cough and so on.

It actually works on logic that you inject your body with chemicals which are controlled and also helpful to you and the diseases by which you’re an affected by and you get the relief.

Magic need not be always illusions it can also be the surprising  responses you get from people, things which a spontaneous and unexpected. I like the concept of magic because there curiosity.

I want to thank the great minds behind the inventions of drugs and research aimed at fighting the disease affecting plants animals and humans.

Irrespective what medicine you take for healing your disease, the mind because of which this medicine, that person’s intention was always towards the betterment of the world which is invaluable, how many of us are ready to think like them?

I request and urge all to think in this direction.

Let us dream of tomorrow where we can truly love from the soul, and know love as the ultimate truth at the heart of all creation.
-Michael Jackson

Thanks for your time.

Mellow

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Hope you all are doing well.

Crying isn’t a week sign .It’s a sign of having tried too hard to be strong for too long.

-Anonymous

I was walking back from work when I saw a something strange happening, a dog was thrown out of an rickshaw, and the people in the vehicle just drove off. The dog was quite old and was a German shepherd .

I just passed the dog which was frightened to the core, at that moment was seeing the commuters around me were walking in a reluctant mindset as if the dog would hurt them, and walking away from it.

I felt very cold; you know that coldness you feel deep down your spine! I being a dog lover and a pet owner for 11 years I know almost all the 6 expressions a dog can express.

So I just stopped for a while and patted him in his back and stood with him for a few more minutes I could see he felt relieved and just moved aside to an alley, fed him some biscuits and I continued walking.

Without my knowledge I saw tears were rolling out from my eyes and the scene of people just leaving that dog out was flashing in front of me like a movie.

I started thinking why this happened I understand I am an empathetic person who likes nature and animals.

But then what made those tears come out without me wanting to cry is this process involuntary?

I started linking and trying to make some meaning of my reaction and I have summarized it in the following way.

The word ‘dog’ instigates a very tender feeling of love in my brain in addition to that my memory pumped in my reminiscences of my pet that is not with me now.

The instant is saw that poor mutt helpless, all the above mixed up in my brain took to me a world where my brain makes me feel that my dog was in trouble, and the response was the tears, the best part is all this happened in just ten seconds.

You would see people crying sometimes for no reasons and you would felt annoyed or felt bad that people spoil your “mood” because you were enjoying a happy moment?

Don’t get annoyed because they do not mean to spoil your mood because for the briefest of moments they would be lost.

They say the greatest gift to humanity is emotions.

Please remember all other animals do have emotions and they show it in their own manner.

Feeling emotional is fine because you relive yourself from the tightness knotted in your brain.

But becoming emotional at wrong places can prove disastrous.

Tears may relieve you but crying in places not required will again prove ruinous. Try to make the process of becoming emotional voluntary which will make you strong as a person from inside, start learning the lessons of controlling your subconscious mind, which is like a database which runs your life.

Thanks for your time have a great week ahead.

I would like to add please always try to animals because that is the least we can give back to nature.