Essence Of Success

 Hello Readers

Hope you all are doing well.

 You create the life you wish by your thoughts, speech and actions.

Lailah Gifty Akita

 I have this hate and love feeling on winters, I love it for the blue skies and the clear night skies to gaze at the horizon and the sunlight which doesn’t scorch.

 But kind of do not like it for the headaches and winter wear, of course, my immunity is to blame, and I am in the Indian sub-continent, I don’t even know what actual winter is!

 I had been to Kashmir some years back, and it was snowing, I touched fresh snow for the first time that feeling was very pristine.

 In cold countries, winter is a time of family reunion and spending time of their daily routine, they call it “wintertime out.”

 The word time-out is excellent because it helps you come out of whatever web of thoughts you have entangled with.

  It helps you start over your thinking process, just on a lighter note we need to factory reset our mind occasionally, as there are too many thoughts which are to be wiped.

 The talk of the town these days is building skills, learning programming languages, starting a YouTube channel, monetize them and make money: courtesy from the tycoon machine called “Google.”

 I cannot even get closer to their business strategies and models, they have opened new horizons to portrait talents across the world, it is simply great no second thought on that.

 Skills are what we inculcate throughout our lives either by learning it by personal interest, for passion, or maybe you develop it on your job.

 There are so many online courses available on the internet about soft skills: communication, stress management, teamwork are few examples.

 Communication would be top of the list I would say when it comes to soft skills.

 If we think about it, this whole world and whatever we do ends up at one focal point, that is communication.

 Whatever you do in life whether at the personal front or at professional level your presence will be  felt on how you spoke, what you spoke or wrote  on paper and lastly your behaviour.

 Oculesics- the study of body language is a specialized branch in behavioral science.

 Why should there be so many courses, workshops, studies, and theories to understand and teach communication.

 Communication is the most essential part to live in this world.

 Many of us don’t understand this, there are times when we had to be kind to the person whom you are conversing with, but you were shrewd, and it broke both of you apart.

 We cannot expect to be a hundred from day one but are we open to learn, evolve or even atleast think about accepting feedback from people who actually give you those feedbacks with the right intention, and that is to change you for good.

 When we end up in problems, I feel half of the situation would resolve if we first understand the issue and also if we can explain the matter to the people who will help you decide it.

 Rest of the problems would resolve if you try to understand people, and comprehend their situations when that happens you build a network, or network of like-minded people just like you, who knows a dream team someday. Still, it starts with you how you talk to them. 

Honestly, that’s all it matters.

 I remember during my course study, my professor made us do this exercise. it is called “Chinese whisper”: initially a short story was readout.

 Few people were asked to go out of the class and a story was narrated, now the students who were sent out earlier were called in and the class was asked to repeat the story to each one of the person who came in one by one finally there was comparison between the initial version and what the class told.

  Conclusion the basic story which was described was lost, what was left is bits and pieces of the story with entirely new meaning, this is called vocal adulteration or gaps in communication.

 It was an eye-opener for me.

We all should definitely heed in the direction of improving ourselves each day as we progress through life and one of the critical areas we need to look at is how do we talk to people and most important of all, to get feedback from them.

 

  You can be called a success, not with your truckloads of knowledge and the highest degrees which you earned, but  when you enter a room full of people and they were all  waiting for you with a smile, that day you can be called a success.

 - Alistair Maclean.

 Hope this blog has opened your mind to think in the direction, which should help you to achieve success in whatever you want to do!

 Thanks for your time.

Helios.

Inertia

 Hello Readers

Hope you all are doing well.

“Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”

― Will Rogers 

 

Well writing after two weeks makes me feel cheery, actually like to keep the writing streak going on, but sometimes doesn’t happen.

My blogging journey started in 2014, and it is going steady, I should definitely mention I have opened up so much through these blogs.

I think it has helped me understand myself and also helped people who read and retrospect situations with their life.

Who are you really is a question which keeps some people quizzing always.

Actually, the only person who can answer that question is “you” and only you.

Think about the thoughts that come to your mind.

But still, there is an inertia in your brain, what is it.

What is inertia which keeps pricking us?

Yes, we all agree these are thoughts in your brain, good or bad is second in question.

But they are getting generated from the roots of your mind, and the thoughts that come out have reasons behind they are coming out.

This is quoted in the famous selling book the power of the subconscious mind.

Well, I tried to come out my inertia today and wrote a poem, you are invited to read, and as always your feedback is most awaited. here it goes:

 

 

The couch.

There he sat on his couch.
Thinking about thoughts!
Lamenting about them; ranting about those views.

Oh! he realised that he had fallen into a well
The water in the well was so cold, he shivered with depression.

What was behind all of this, he thought!
After a long time, he realised it was inertia;

The inertia of worries,
The torpor of discontent ;
He sees the light;

The light gleamed at the top of the well;
The light of positivity; shined
Finally, the inertia left him;
Momentum is what moved him ahead.
~Fin~

Well of late I have started writing poems, I feel happy, to be honest, you know it is difficult to write poetry.

Huge respects to all those great poets out there who have written great poems.

I really hope my readers will come out of the inertia, the worries and all that keep you back.

Walk like a majestic elephant, alone or with a family. Be motivated, be brave and be

ready to help the weak.

Thanks for your time, have a great day ahead.

Helios.

 

The Crescent Castle

Hello readers

 

Hope all of you are doing good.

 

There are friends, and there is a family, and then there are friends who become family.

-Anonymous 

 

These times which we are going through are may those rare situations in our life where we have spent the maximum of our day at home!

 

We have actually got a drift of the life of homemakers.

 

I have understood that it is not a cakewalk, it is actually a challenge, and for all the household work, which is done, there is no pay!

 

The only thing which we can give them in return is our compassion, love and respect.

 

Just turning some pages in the book of history, there were times where a fort practiced to define the security of a colony or maybe we can call it a kingdom.

 

 A signal from a watchtower that there was a chance of intrusion, which would be confirmed later by the apparent symptoms of an invasion. The first course of action by the army was to close the doors of the fort.

 

The strength of the fort would define the power of a kingdom.

 

Transcending from those times to modern times, do forts still exist?

 

Maybe we all think, they do not, but there are still forts which are ubiquitous.

 

How can I comprehend my statement? How can I be so sure that garrisons are so common, abundant, and global?

 

We are all protected by some forces, and people let me explain:

 

When you are born, your soul becomes existent along with your body, and a personality is born, which defines you, that is your first shield or protection, you are fortified by our character.

 

Why is it the first? For a simple reason, the body and soul go hand in hand, and your soul stays with you until the end of your life on this earth, you would have heard this before, they address a dead man as "body", the reason being there is no soul in that body, it is now entered a new body.

 

Ego, people say it is a dangerous aspect in a person's life, the ego can kill you, the ego can eat up a person and turn him into a Satan.

 

But, there is a threshold of ego which should be present in each one of us, I tell you it is essential to have the personality in you, let us call it good ego which should help to guide in the right path and should stop there.

 

If that ascends into a super-ego  it is good because super-ego is the maturity of your mind to look at things in a ethical way and we value others, but ego can make you a narcissist,if you become one then , you would just be alive, and there would be no life in your living.

 

After soul, the next most protective shield in your life is  your mother, we call mother to this earth, and we see her as the best symbol of forgiveness, across all species which are present on earth, she imbibes qualities which are noble and wise.

 

Wolf families are considered the second most empathetic in the world, first place goes to elephants (Courtesy google images)

 

In the ancient language of Sanskrit, there is a quotation called 'kshmaya Dharitri' which means have patience like earth.

 

The earth has taken so many misdeeds of we humans, but it has forgiven us and allowed us to live. Similarly, your mother withstands and sustains all the mental injuries you cause her in your anger, in your pain and sadness yet welcomes you with a smiling face.

 

That is the grace of your mother, she is the only person who can do that, that is the bond which exists between you and your mother.

 

A father too is equally complementing and has the grace, so these two people in your life are very unique, immaterial of how you treat them, they are the same with since the day you were born. They remain the same until their end if you feel they changed its actually you who has changed not them, meditate on this thought, I think you will come to an agreement with my statement. 

 

Of course, there is this bitter fact that there are bad parents too in this world, me being an optimist, only hopes, we can change them into a new leaf with our love and some right words each day.

 

So, can we now say that there are forts which exist in this world, and can we name that fort as "family" a "brotherhood." a beautiful "friendship."? 

 

Please respect, protect and believe in your parents, if you are lucky you might be blessed with equally loving siblings, yes, I would definitely say only if you are fortunate! And few beautiful friends who are real angels who are selfless and unconditional and help you and comfort you when you most need it.

 

The castle is now complete!

 

It is up to you to protect, love and respect this fort now, which is always ready to protect you.

 

In every conceivable manner, your family is the link to the past and the bridge to your future.

-Maatie Kalokoh

 

 There are the only people who know to accept you the way you are and who love you unconditionally for what you are.

 

Thanks a lot for your time.

 

Helios.