Forgotten Etiquettes

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I hope you are doing well.

If a man keeps too many people happy and helps them,  he will be mostly a lonely person in life.

-Anonymous

According to you what is a relationship, the general perception and the imagination that we get in our minds is any love song from a Bollywood movie? Well, I feel these days this is the perception towards freindships and relationships, which is according to me is totally wrong, the fact of the matter is we actually do not understand the exact meaning of it.

The main purpose of writing this blog is that I have seen people around me and I have observed that in some places it is very ordeal the way people behave and look at a boy and a girl who are just talking to each other happily.

Why do people have an affinity to talk negative when they see two people of opposite sex just trying to speak?

I was a student of psychology some years back, I had read about human behavior during particular situations, some basic takeaways were:

Some people can’t tolerate happiness and they are popularly called sadists in English, it seems when they see people speaking in gleaming happiness, it will make them feel very insecure, and the resultant reaction is just bullying in that conversation, I have observed that who bullied finally walks away from their happily, so he made his environment unhappy and drained that happiness and filled his mind with it! 

The above is one category of people, there is another whom I consider a disease to this society, and yes I am sorry if the word disease is too harsh, but I ought to use it as the situation is very grim.

This is so pathetic that people backbite and gossip so much about a guy talking to a girl and just keep on blabbering filth about them, is it because you are jealous that you could not pull away a conversation with her.

Beautiful depiction of the boomerang effect by Norman Rochwell

Purely not being sexist here but this mindset is there equally in men and women and they strive to achieve their goals and go to whatever extent possible, ok! The goal here is just breaking open the friendship and again feeling happy about it.

The Basic Etiquette

Ok, I am not a travel savvy person and maybe not having so much acumen to speak on this but; I have worked with many foreigners from America to Brazil, to China, Sydney, and the Philippines, I feel more comfortable to work with them than Indians. Yes, you might question my judgment by asking me “of course in professional life people like to stay professional and are not interested in either passing personal comments or talking about other people, I would like to counter by saying, then why we Indians eat sleep and live gossips? please tell me if you disagree with this statement this question is for all the professionals who are working in MNCs' so are we professional? are we so immature to invade someone’s personal life and are so jobless to understand who is he speaking to and whom and be judgemental about it?

Why is a man speaking to women is considered as a stigma and a great sin even now in the neo-modern era? Why shouldn’t positive things like friendship co-operation, support come up instead of people calling that man a player or that women something worse?

First try to clean your own thinking lenses in the brain so that you can think without any fog of negativeness and short-sightedness, remember life is like a boomerang it will one day definitely hit back at you, so it is better you should plan whether you want a good one or a bad one to hit you.

What I feel we all should do when we get the craving to gossip about someone or talk rot about a relationship, try to rethink about it and first of all see if that adds any value to your life if you do that other than devilish pleasure.

Thanks for your time.

Helios.

Mistreatment of impeccability

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There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.

-Denis Waitley

Good day! This blog is actually one among my life experiences, and what I have learned and understood by looking around.The time which we are living today has depleted when compared to the value systems which we had some 20 years ago, even though I am not denying the fact that even at that time there were some black spots, now those spots have changed into a cluster.

There is this famous saying “when money is lost something is lost, but when character lost everything is lost” now I hear sometimes on corporate meetings or you know in satire comedy shows, “If the character is lost nothing is lost, but if money is lost everything is lost!”.

Where are we heading? is there still anything called innocence left? Has everyone become smart in an evil way and aimed at only materialism?

You know this psychology which is going on in India, well not only India even the rest of the world there is a significant increase in materialism and character paralysis which is an epidemic.

What is character paralysis? it is according to me compromising too much of his own self for the sake of society or people or jobs or so on.

But there is a new culture which has come up I would like to call it the art of making people work for you the way it would work out and finally when all that was wanted is done just trashing them like a used tissue.

How many of you have experienced this? I would say yes! If you take a crowd of 100 people I am sure at least 50% of the people would have gone through this.

You would have met this colleague or your classmate who suddenly becomes very close to you and you would also like spending time with him or her and then the list of help and requests begins and finally one day you would realize that unfortunately you were taken advantage of and feel bad about it, when already that person would be already preying on his or her  next victim.

If any of you reading this blog have come across such situations, people and were victims to this cheap act,  do not feel bad  because the person who was responsible would one day again end up with someone more smarter than he or she might  also become victims some other day so do not feel bad, life is a wheel so its only matter of spinning.

Before I end what do we get in becoming parasites on somebody or manipulating someone for our own gains?  this will eventually lead to remorse when all the strength in your body has decreased and you need someone to help you. Live true to your heart take account of how you live, I am not here to ask you to set examples but expect you to maintain a minimum decorum.

Thanks for your time let me know your views in the comment box.

Helios

Care

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This is apparently the last blog for 2017. A new year brings new hope to us and lets us make the best out of it.

The word “care” is very important in our lives.

The origin of this word is actually from nature, you know we all would  not have existed without the care of nature it has helped us to survive and protected us and helped to evolve and here we are today the homosepians “tagged as the most intelligent species in the world”.

Life is a bucket of experiences if your bucket is empty it means you are still inexperienced and you need to fill your bucket so that you can wash the dirt and clean your car of mistakes and transform it into the sparkling automobile of hope and positivity.

When I compare other species with our own, we are too much dependent on our parents for a longer period, than animals who are pushed out of their families to lead an independent life and the newborns build their own families and this cycle continues.

With the idea of civilization, the possibilities for survival are infinite and that is the reason we have sustained our lives so well and marked footprints on the moon.But at the same time we marked some dark footprints on our own earth by becoming too selfish and going on just rampantly extinguishing lives and ecosystems in the name of agriculture, urbanisation, well I agree I am hypocritical here as even I am no cave man who is living in some lonely jungle doing minimum harm to environment, but at least I try not to over-exploit nature.

Why is care so much necessary in this modern society? Actually, it is one of the most important aspects that is needed today.

Have we realized there is a reason behind why criminals are existent why people end up in making a life of darkness and enjoy sadism?

The true responsibility of a parent is not to fulfill the wants of their children it is actually understanding their desires and helping them  to achieve their dreams  rather than following the prototype or the stereotypical way of living  in phases.

What care can do is actually amazing it builds a bond which can never be broken, if you love your child without expecting any results, that child will always grow to be the most mature individual according to me, because he feels so secure and does things at free well, which will help create wonders.

There are numerous stories where there lived great people , but their childhood was bad or sometimes ill-treated by parents.for them I would bow in respect because , they were s9 futuristic and they learn the meaning off their lives at a tender age.

But we forget that they would have had some guardian angels who always were there to help them and keep their hopes flying high.

The soldiers who protect this nation day in and day out without any break, that is care they take care of all our mothers, only because they consider their country as a mother,according to me they are the true sanyasis' of this time they are true karma yogis.

Let us try to take care of people around us and be their beam of hope.

Trust is like paper once it is crumbled, it can never be perfect.

-Anonymous

thanks for your time, have a great day and  a fabulous year ahead.

Helios.

A motivator, an advisor and problems.

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Hope you are fine today.

To succeed you need to forget the last loss.

P.Gopichand.

I like motivators and advisors because they give me positive energy and hope, they lift up when I am in regret or depressed and those are the ones who actually care about you.

I was swapping channels on my dish tv and caught up with the government sports channel which is called as Doordarshan sports in India.

Of course half of the programmes in this channel have always been repetitive and recorded obviously because of the TV rights war in India for sports, but still, they were showing some old recorded 100 wheelchair dash and the banner shown below was para-athletics and the contestants did not have legs until their thighs.

As the race began I saw all the racers using their hands to pull their wheel chairs and finally the race ended with a Chinese outrunning everyone and finally winning the race.

I felt motivated seeing this special race for special people.

An advisor and a motivator.

We have always been helped by these two people in life, when we are on the wrong side of the road there is that one person who helps us to hit the right side he is the advisor.

When you feel depressed and low there are these people who switch on the light of hope in you and make you feel bright these are the motivators though,  they will help you out with your problem they do not advise you, and I call motivators for those who help us motivate not to our sins but for the mistake which happened which was not committed by intention, and also motivation should be given on the right things, a motivation to commit  a crime is not good it is a misdeed.

Even though I agree there are motivators and advisors all through your life finally what is that other factor helps you get the effect or help of these two people discussed above.

It is our own mind! Even if a person motivates us there is this mind which says to you (your soul) Yahoo! that is what makes you feel motivated! the person is the trigger but your mind in the jockey if,  your mind doesn't want to take that motivation it wouldn’t care.

We should never go that dormant stage where we do not respond to people or incidents which should actually have an impact on us! the impact I am referring here is to become motivated or change your way of thinking from the advise received.

So the basic thumb rule should be, always be open-minded be motivated and advised by people and also self-audit yourself and try to stay self motivated which is the best.

Wishing you all the best in this holiday season and let us welcome this new year with a new hope and aim to  save eniroment and be more courteous to other creatures around us.

Let us motivate and be motivated, and take responsibility when we advise, this would help you to solve most of the problems you face and also help to solve others problems.

Thanks for your time. Let the new year bring bliss to mother earth.

Helios.

The chosen ones

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Hope you all are doing well.

If a system is too materialistic and generating unnecessary waste the first step is to work on reducing the waste and the second is to correct this system.

-Anonymous 

I was just thinking how fortunate we all are? Yes, fortunate because seriously I am telling you we are fortunate!

I did not repeat that word 3 times just to make this blog interesting or surprising to you. But I just realized how well supported we are from the people around us who have been there in our ups and downs.

Of course, I agree this entire society would not be behind your back to help you, but I am talking about few people who help us when we are in need of help, but the question is how many have we helped in return?

Recently I had been to a marriage of one of my relatives; definitely, Indian traditional marriages are very complex in their rituals and their culture.

Even in these modern times too, that tradition is still seen, ok next when we come to the feast part of this occasion, I observed there is an industry which has been created to make this occasion a success.

The chefs, the catering arrangements flower decorators, photographers and so on.

But there is a hitch, even though we celebrate a man’s oath to take care of women and same with a woman who pledges to take care of a man as a big festival, are we lost too much into it and losing the meaning of it?

This is just my opinion we have lost to understand the meaning of culture and everything is running like an industry and we are behaving like just we are at our jobs robotic!

All the marriages are now being photographed with studio settings! Drone photography, and crane cameras and each marriage party is competitive with the technology used therein lighting, photography and recently a new jibe “candid photography” and uploading the same to youtube? come on where is the privacy?  I am not debating on the success of these marriages as it is a personal life of two people, of course, Indian marriages are the most successful in the world  and it has been documented in the WHO (world health organization) but my concern is can we think a little bit before we just spend loads on material and manpower .

I have taken comments from people saying a person marries only once so that is the reason for the celebratory nature of this function I understand that!

But you would be shocked to know that there are hundreds of tonnes of plastic and paper waste which are being generated due to marriages, where is the control on this by the government?

I tell you these are smallest of things which contribute to the natural hazards relating to pollution because there are so many marriages which take place and these small pockets of waste snowball into a mammoth godown of waste which we depend on the municipality to clear.

Food wastage

I have written about food wastage before, but with particular to marriages I see people are in such a sick mentality and think as if they have some sworn right to eat what they want and trash the rest, have you realized how much effort it takes to produce that one grain of rice or that one slice of the vegetable or fruit? you trashed.

Please think about society and the poorer classes who are still waiting to eat a morsel and the environment which we pollute since our birth thinking we superior in the evolution! 

So we are chosen ones! Who has been blessed with best we can have but still why do we crib? Think about it for wasting food or because we enjoy too much and chose to crib or pastime.

Let’s start helping the have-nots around us and experience  the joy of giving and compassion

Thanks for your time, please let me know your feedback in the comment box.

Helios

Networking advancement a boon or a bane ? - Debate

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Hope you all are fine.

People are shy to talk each other, but don't mind sharing anything at all to the world on the internet!

-Social media critic.

Actually, today's topic was suggested by my friend I feel it is important and should be analyzed logically. It has also been an age-old question stuck in my mind which I will put out today.

First the question: Is advancement in the field of communication building a healthy society? Even before I answer that question let us first see how has it changed society.

Earlier, I am talking about the pre-Facebook era, the social networking market was a lame duck if I may say so, and even the motive of the social network was just you know networking in the literal sense.

But now we can see social networking has become a platform for pumping memes, countless personal pictures, and advertisements of all possible products.

Again earlier people used to talk to each other, I mean talk not face-timing or skyping, so what happened to us, why is that we feel our communities families and circles so dry and distant these days.

Well, I think of only 1 answer that is the silicon revolution! Yes, the social networking boom and silicon revolution are interlinked, as the computing power increased so did the other constituents which would help developers to build networking tools on almost any hand-held device.

The reason I am saying they are interlinked is that without the mobility and advancement which we see in technology it would not have been easy to access social networking websites in your palms!

Yes! I am of course talking about the smartphones which have changed things for good and also has a flip side.

I am not totally against social networking, but I am very much concerned about this generation Y who are totally living in a virtual world of likes, comments, and emoticons.

When was the last time we sat across a table and had a chit-chat with our grandparents and cousins, relatives?

Instead, you just create a WhatsApp group and laugh there even though you can meet everyone with little effort? or just mute those groups and being part of it for the sake of being there?

I mean what are looking at! A game of mime? I am sorry according to conventional biology T.V is considered as a passive instrument which makes you introvert and less proactive over the course of time, which earned it the name the “idiot box”.

Now I would say due to extensive social networking and online activity has made people distant and turned them into anti-social introvert people.

But there is something even scarier, we are on the verge of becoming hollow walls without any knowledge of what is happening in this world other than the memes' we read!

Please let us start reading books like older times and read as much as books as you can quit staring at screens unless you do something useful with the available technology.

My intention is not to discourage social networking but, there should be a purpose for anything we do, so it is better you find your purpose and may start weighty conversations with the people you meet on the internet instead of a monotony of hi's bye's and good mornings and good nights and what not.

If you ask me on what side of the debate you are I would say I am not totally for it, but we can 

have a nice day ahead. Thank you, Abhishek for suggesting this topic.

Helios

Psyched

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Hope you all are happy

Be the silent watcher of your thoughts and behavior you are beneath the thinker, you are the stillness beneath the mental noise, you are the love and joy beneath the pain.

-E Tolle

Have you thought about this anytime? Does your mind motivate you and makes you build a strategy in solving some problem or you fuel these thoughts into your mind and allow it come up with a solution.

Usually, I feel even though the brain is an organ and we have control over our brain, the mind is what is feels that consciousness and ability to understand.

The whole life we spend in understanding, execution and reacting to all possible external stimuli. If you the think word stimuli is too technical, then let me make it simple by terming it as external environment.

So from the time, you were a baby, can you recollect when you first started getting thoughts?

well I think I started getting thoughts from my school days may be 3^rd grade or so, well don’t know if it is late or early. It may have started to flow early for you or later actually it doesn’t matter as I told you there will always be this one factor called environment which will motivate you to think, and of course, because we are humans it is in our genes to think, well that I am speaking about intellectuals who are ready to think.

The name of this blog is ‘psyched’ the dictionary form of this word is “Psych” which means to make someone’s mind to be prepared for some situation.

It is not that there will be someone else to make that person prepare like for instance a mother preparing her son for an exam. But this process happens automatically.

Who helps you to prepare then? Have you anytime thought about this: how is that you are always conscious of what is happening around you, you read people’s body language, you know when someone is sad or happy, you feel angry and nag sometimes even though you know what you were doing is not appropriate, and sometimes you end up taking a decision which is so wrong and later repents of it.

All that mentioned above I can assure you that you would have experienced it in your life before you read this blog today.

So are we psyched without our knowledge and constantly prepared by our mind which instructs the brain to behave in the way we behave, the answer is a yes!

You know what psyched me into writing this blog, it is some unreasonable behavior for some people in society starting from someone I know till the crazy politicians who like to burn their own people in nuclear test facilities for superiority? come on this man would have felt more superior if he could have done something good for his people.

Why don’t they think? Before they do something don’t they understand the negativity involved in whatever are they doing? that only reason I can think of is that they let their minds lose!

I see good men and women are suffering emotionally and feeling depressed for no fault of them and it is due to the childish behavior of their parents, siblings or anyone they care about, and they continue to suffer only because they love them!

The people who are at fault are psyched in an illusion and feel that devilish pleasure when they see their own people sad, or seriously I am not sure about their intentions.

Mind is beautiful actually it represents a person’s soul and it can achieve wonders if the good thoughts are appreciated and the negative ones are just shunned and it is possible with only true determination and the motive to think well and keep people around you happy and feel secure.

I wish you all well and hope you will forgo anger and grief for happiness and calmness and be psyched in the way which is most needed.

You make your mind work, let your mind not get you worked up.

Thanks for your time, let me know your views in the comment box.

Helios