Too near too far?

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Hope you guys are doing great.

 If you light a lamp for someone ,it will also brighten your path .

-Gautama Buddha

Philosophy is a beautiful subject; it helps everyone to think higher than what average human thinks.

When I used to discuss about philosophy in debates or casual conversation with friends, work colleagues or family. We all have point to make which is, people who think about philosophy have lesser problems in life, I thought it was a fair argument because even if we just flip back our books of management.

 Abraham Maslow  who gave us the Maslow's need hierarchy theory explains: at first a person will look at physiological needs that is the basic needs, then he will look for security or safety  needs like building a place to stay build  family and so on next he looks at love and belongingness from his family and friends, moving forward he looks at esteem needs or the ego needs where he wants people to respect him and finally  the learned management Guru  Maslow calls it self-actualization needs which is a person who goes in search of higher knowledge and spirituality .

The self-actualization needs is at the top of the ladder which he says a person who has the other needs will start thinking about Heftier topics like philosophy, spirituality and so on.

How many of you agree with me?

I agree with this because only if you have lesser things to worry in life you can move towards this direction because in this fast changing world let us not kid ourselves by saying we can give up the other needs and move to the highest rung of the ladder and move towards that bent of mind, the guys who can do it I say are definitely brilliant, but you know what kind of energy it needs, it is not the calorie energy  it is the cerebral energy is what many psychologists say.

Too near too far: This phrase is actually has many meanings, the generic meaning would be you like to do something in life you go just enough far to touch your goal and achieve it partially but fail to achieve the complete goal.

There is another meaning for the same phrase which I want to focus on today.

In the Chapter 3 of the Bhagavad Gita one of the greatest scriptures in Hinduism, it says Karma yoga is the discipline of selfless action as a way to perfection.

If you ask me “Is this like I need to work for free”? no my friend I would say This is above that level or our level of thinking it is a unique feeling of you do what is good for the society or you what is good that has to be immediately done to a man in suffering or any creature on this world in suffering and when the pain is relieved you see happiness in happiness of the being which you helped and not expect in return.

It is also doing what is to be done at the correct moment and at the time when it required and leaving the result to the almighty and you would never worry about the result.

We all are wondering is it really possible in this era of materialism and selfishness, actually to be frank with you there is lot of hope left, most of the time I keep seeing that the situations are just being hyped, like most of the reports are published without proper research which people in journalism call it as adulterated news feeds.

They are already practising Karma yoga what about us?

There is lot of good things which are going around and you just don’t know it yet because we are being pumped with always set of guidelines about how to not get cheated, always being careful and being scared all the time.

There are things which at this moment going normal and even great, so we all need to work towards making things better and concentrate on how we can help anyone in distress I won’t limit myself to humans because I treat all species on this earth as same.

The art of letting  go is just the most difficult art to learn; and do you who are the master piece artists  who have mastered this art, they are not religious gurus they are the  brave mothers who could let go their daughters and sons to serve the nation, don’t you think it is Karma yoga, you may argue about the perks a military personnel gets, but just question yourself  how many of are ready to hang your life on a clothes rod where the wind is so swift that the clothes may get tattered  into countless pieces ?!

I appreciate even the people who are into real spiritual organizations who are rendering service to humans and also taking care of animals, that is also Karma yoga it is easy for us just sit back and comment that they backed by babus and others and makes lot money in the name of service, but question yourselves again can you do it? Or what you would do if you had become the world’s number one guru?

You know it is very difficult for you to give something like a gift to a person who is practicing Karma yoga because he would be totally abstemious , the only way you can make that person happy is helping him or her in the same service he/she is into or you also being service minded!

Being practical in life is an on-going process and to let go of the things you love the most and the things you desire for and to render service for free for any cause for that matter will be your first step towards full filling your self- actualization need! and experiencing this word called “ amity”.

So it does not matter whether you see it from a management aspect or you take the yogic route, the ultimate question is “can you let go”?

Thanks for your time.

Have great week ahead.

Spider on my ceiling fan.

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Hope you all are doing well.

It may be difficult in the beginning, but networking is a skill that pays dividends so i suggest investing now.

-Lydia S. Hu

It was half past noon, I was on my bed reading a book , suddenly I lifted my head , not sure why I did that but when I did that the ceiling fan was the first object which I noticed.

I could also see a tiny spider lurking on the edge of the fan blade and trying to build a web. Little did it realise that it would perish once the fan is switched on.

Actually seeing this spider motivated me  to think in a different direction.

The spider web is considered as the most unique structure built by any creature including us. What so special about the web, a spider web is a device which helps  to trap food and also to stay safe from predators.

The web is a type of silk which is produced from a gland called spinnerets which are found behind the salivary glands.

I was very much impressed by this insect because the way it weaves its web is just amazing and scientist have said that the dimensions of the web are so precise and accurate that it is considered it almost considered as the most stable structures ever built.

Well the spider web is a network according to me which is interconnected; which leads to the central hub where the spider sits let us correlate it to our lives.

Life would be brilliant if we have a great network, the network I am talking about is not just that professional network or a brilliant network of friends, all these networks should be connected to make it a big network made up of friends, benefactors work colleagues and so on.

If you have a such a network I tell you there is no reason you will left out among the crowd and talk about loneliness in life or you being ignored .

The network will help you to stay active and bubbling.

This blogging always keeps me active and moving towards new ideas and concerns which I feel needs to addressed only because of the networks which are created by you guys reading this blog and sharing it and the pleasure I get by sharing in my networks.

The network web plays a pivotal role in life.

There are also some cautions,  a network should be almost information oriented and never deviate from it, I am not saying we need to just be some information gateway robots who  never communicate anything else but I would like to say do not bring the vitamin M factor in the network it may cut the web like a huge grass hopper just crashing on the web.

An innocent network with maturity is the most blissful network that you can find.

Why I say innocent is that the purpose of the network should be pure and should never be formed for the wrong reasons.

Nature has the best networks starting from ants to spiders we should all keep these creatures in mind when we want to achieve something big in life.

Go build a network.

Thanks for your time have a nice day.

The logic.

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Hope you all are doing well.

Manpower without unity is not a strength unless it is harmonized and united properly, then it becomes a spiritual power.
-Sri Sardar Vallabhbhai Patel

Reasoning conducted or assessed according to strict principles of validity is called logic. Majority of the people in the world react and work based on logic.

Even I don’t believe anything without any logic. But sometimes do you think our logics are correct and the way we are thinking is right, well let us discuss.

Here are some situations which are inter-linked just try to relate them.

You are walking on the road you noticed a currency note; you just look around and did find anybody so you just slipped it inside your pocket. Now you continue walking you see a man wandering on the road helpless he approaches and asks you if you had some money because someone was very ill at his home and wanted some money to give to the doctor.

You can react to this situation in two different ways 1. You give him the money or you tell him that you don’t have the money and walk away here I am assuming you opted for the second option.

You further move on and you see a small girl who wants to sell you a pen which you are quite impressed with and you buy it.

Now for the logical analysis of this case study.

First your brain reacted in a happy mode to the free money that you got, then when a person asked for that money you felt aback and refrained and did not give it to him as you just realized that you will lose your money.

But when you again saw the small girl who was selling a pen, you felt happy that you are getting something in exchange for the money which you did not earn.

So actually this pattern of behavior is seen in the majority of the population and is not something unrealistic or peculiar.

There is a correlation to the same case study any more realistic context that is donation. We feel very proud of what donations we make, but sometimes we shy away from situations where people are actually in need of money, the reason is that when a social group will ask you a donation there is a possibility that they might be willing to give that donation as these days people offer you a tax exemption for the donation you have made that your brain will think like the little girl who gave you a pen for the money you paid her, even though this is the money you have earned.

But if there are some people who are struggling for a meal, many people fail to help because they do not see the happiness of the people and satisfaction of quenching their hunger as a return for the help.

Let us start becoming really useful to society and stop and throw that question from our minds which is” who is he why should I help” once we lose this question from our mind and start helping people without worrying for a tax exemption which is the return or the expectations for the help you do I am sure we all realize the joy of giving.

Thanks for your time and have a happy week ahead.

The Fight.

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Hope you all are doing well.

The true laboratory is the mind, Where behind illusions we uncover the laws of truth.

-Jagadish Chandra Bose.

So the weekend is over and we are all back on our week cycles again. I wanted to talk about a different type of fight today and that is the constant fight with only an opponent.

Have you heard of a person who fights with him and only him and some illusion? If you are thinking I am talking about people who are not sound in mind you are wrong.

I am also not talking about people who are schizophrenic (people who suffer from the disease of talking to themselves).

This fight is begins soon after a creature is born in this world till he goes back to the universe.

This is purely a biological fight which involves the internal systems of our bodies and it is between your body and how it fights and defends and protects against the odds of nature.

If we understand the bio-mechanics of life we will all be truly amazed.

For example how does your body defend you from diseases, we have a good defense system which consists of white blood cells antibodies and externally we have the two famous proteins pro-thrombin and fibrinogen, if you are thinking that you have never heard about these two words, I can tell you that you have felt these two proteins and you have been seeing this since you first bruised yourself when you were playing ball near your house and fell.

Yes it is network which forms on your skin which is dark brown in color and falls off as the new skin comes out, what a beautiful mechanism nature has designed.

There are millions of mechanisms in the body and the first laws of physics I guess were proved and working in the bodies of the physicists himself before they even proved those laws.

Yes! Nature is the universal boss of everyone, you have the non-return valves in your heart and your excretory system which are imitated in the plumbing industry, and the wings of the airplane, the monitor lizard’s grip are all derived into the aviation and military you have many more examples like SONAR, night vision cameras, temperature sensitive instruments and vibration sensing instruments implied from snakes and other reptiles.

This fight ends when the being dies, the fight which began when it was born, and it was the single winner that was the cell structure of the organism, and the fights have infinite rounds still the winner would be the same, but the day the cells of the entity call it a day, the winner would always be nature. This is the fight in which the winners never change, and always predetermined.

The only thing that matters is before you mislay that fight which is for sure you would lose at the end, how many smiles you create on this earth and how many hearts you won.

Be that champion till your last gasp only after which you give a chance to nature which will be the winner ever after.

Thanks for your time and have a great week ahead.

Lucy.

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Hope you all are doing well.

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over other.

-William James.

Once upon time near the foot hills of the Himalayas was a kid named Lucy.

She was born to a shepherd who was working for a land lord who was a pretty wealthy man who owned cattle, sheep and a dozen yaks.

Lucy lost her mother at a very young age so she was taken care by her dad,  who was a kind and empathetic person who realized that his kid should not feel the lack of her mother’s love and took care of her so well that she never felt the lack of her mom’s love. Her dad ensured that she would get educated as he did not want her to become just to work under someone like him and just earn enough bread to survive.

So Lucy went to a local convent which was a charity educational institute as she started learning her ABCs’, once the convent organized a donation campaign for beggars, so the teachers requested the students to get any old clothing and sundries at their place. So Lucy was very much determined to help for the cause so she asked her dad if there was anything that she could do.

Her dad was pretty happy with her concern and service minded attitude, he advised that since he had some surplus wool left with him for the year she could give it to her teachers who can decide how best it will be helpful.

But Lucy was unhappy that by just giving some wool it will be burden on her teachers to either knit them to make sweaters or the wool will go waste. She had a week of time before the donation program to start.

So she decided to learn knitting and make some sweaters. She took the help of her neighbor who was very dear to her and managed to knit 5 sweaters which were very too pretty look at.

The day the donation took place, Lucy’s teachers were surprised and asked her “My dear child who gave you these newly knit sweaters I know your dad is a kind man but why did he take so much pain to make this?” Lucy replied “My dear sister (Nuns are called as sister in convents) my dad gave me the wool and she smiled, then who knitted them? “Asked the sister, “I took the help of the granny who lives next door and knitted them” replied Lucy.

Her teacher was overwhelmed for the effort and concern Lucy put in to accomplish a task for the sake of society.

And from that day Lucy was known for her service-mindedness in school, which was once noticed by the head of infirmary in the church who gave a suggestion to her teachers “ she would be a fine doctor  if you ask me she has a godly touch I tell you”

Lucy grew up to be a young girl and looking into her interest in serving people  her teacher advised her to become a doctor.

Lucy was very happy and gladly said she will would become for sure.

After years of hard work Lucy graduated as a psychologist. Her dad was very happy and was proud that his little girl for her great achievement.

As the years rolled by when Lucy was progressing in her career, she decided she wanted to study more and opted to take up a specialization in frustration and stress management, another 2 long years of study and she became what she aimed for and setup her own clinic in Kolkata.

As the days passed by, the fame of her clinic grew in and around the city, Once she met a women who came to seek her help, her problem was that her best friend was showing a frustrated behavior and since she knew her for long that she was a kind hearted lady but suddenly she had started feeling un-rest and behaving in way that people don’t like, Lucy agreed to meet her friend and do her best.

Some days later her friend came to the clinic, and this is what happened:

“Hello, your friend Rita asked me to meet you how are you today?” the friend of Rita her name was Richa replied,” Hi doctor I am fine actually but,  she feels I have some issues and not mentally fit I wanted to prove her wrong so I decided to take a challenge hope you will don’t agree with her.”

Lucy smiled and replied “Oh miss Richa who said you are mentally unfit? You are as fit as a fiddle I just wanted to meet you as I heard you are a very good painter.

Stunned by the answer of the doctor Richa broke down in tears, Dr.Lucy understood the reason why she did so and just consoled her. From that day Richa became close to the doctor and gradually the family of Richa as well as her close friend were surprised her jolly behavior as before and the change which made her feel normal again.

They all thanked DR. Lucy for her great help and treatment which was given to Richa were eager to know how she cured her from her frustration habit.

This is what Lucy replied in the  “Richa is an artist inside,  she loves to paint  but due to her family pressures she was not able to follow her passion last time her dad, restricted her by not allowing to take part in a prestigious painting competition, there he sowed the seed for the neuro transmitter which promotes nerve impulses to trigger tension in the facial muscles which made her frown and her brain cells recorded this rejection and was in a traumatic state, but due to her maturity she managed herself. But the outbursts caused by the rejection and disappointment continued, when she came here we had long discussions on her likes and dislikes and the moment I uttered the word painting, as Rita had told me about her passion for painting she realized even though she had the talent she could not express it, so this made her feel helpless leading her to cry. I helped her to start painting again by giving certain biological schematics which I wanted as portrait!”

There ends the story, my take away from the  story is firstly how anyone can become whatever he wants in life. Example Lucy.

Secondly we all suffer from our frustrations some big and some small the important point is the small frustations become big at times and can be very harmful to the person and the people who is living with him or her.

We should never show our frustration on others because it is like you throw stone in water and it keeps producing repells, each repel is the new person who is frustrated because of the frustrated person among the group or family.

What can I do to control my frustration, learn from your errors take feedback from people about your behavior and improve yourself, never become  a person who likes loneliness, first understand yourself before trying to find holes in others shoes.

Never break the bonds with your family and siblings, if you want to know why? Ask people who are in  rehabilitation centers  for  societal syndromes they will tell you why. The paradox a person will never understand that he made a mistake until it happens to him, but a wise person will learn from his ow mistakes and will try not to repeat it and that is you are first step to avoid frustration, because every time you fail you are boosted with a dose of neural signals which wants you to fight to win the problem which is completely a natural process.

Lastly happiness is a wave is same as the frustration wave but it repells even faster than the latter and does the most wonderful things it makes a person smile.

So choose the wave you want to surf on.

Thanks a lot for your time .Hope you liked this short story. 

ESC- To Quit?

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Hope you are doing well.

If you are always worried about your future and consult a palmist, remember people without hands do make their own future.

-Anonymous

“Get busy living or get busy dying, that's God damn truth”  from the box office hit Shawshank redemption.

Actually one of my friends Jiga  from the Indian Institute of Bombay asked me to write a passage on this sensitive and important topic, ESC- to quit is about the reason people commit suicide and lose their precious lives and an effort to  build awareness to eradicate this mental disease. 

So why do some people take that extreme step and stop breathing forever. We need to understand that whatever happens in life there will always be a way out so simply ending that life is not wise.

We are designed to live not to die an untimely and an unnatural death.

You know the sad part is that these days someone dying especially suicides has become a news column in almost all the leading newspapers recently I read an article that shook me! It was about a bureaucrat's wife and daughter committing suicide because her husband or the girl's father was charged with corruption. Even if you logically think about it, the kid’s dad or that lady’s husband was at fault, OK let me give them the benefit of doubt saying it was shame and the fear to face the media or their own people, but how does it match to end their lives?

People have seriously forgotten how important is there life and they should be fortunate today that they are alive and living.

It is so pathetic to hear news like a 10 year girl or a boy committed suicide, because her mom scolded her, her teacher scolded her! She failed in math test! I mean is that even a reason?

I was just checking the statistics on the net it shows that people from the age group as young as 10 till the adult age of 30 have higher affinity to end their life for reasons like academic issues, financial issues, disappointment , school bullying, for not getting their desired women failing in an exam the list is almost endless.

Let’s be honest how many of us have got this horrible thought? I can truthfully say that I have not got such thoughts which I am happy about, may be sometimes in frustration I could have just blabber some statements but that would be a stress buster and you know no one means that and it was completely involuntary and came out as an emotional reflex.

Dear people please understand you being born as human the crown of evolution is itself a boon, do not just give it up for what so ever reason, I am sure there would be a way out, just think how much you can before you think something which is meaningless .

Some Suggestions.

I would like the teachers in schools to build more awareness among the students about importance of life other than the subjects they teach.

Students or rather children should be thought almost everything positive in their learning phase of life that is until their high school and beyond it,

Movies which involve mentally disturbing scenes should be filtered out, because this is an era where people get influenced by movies.

The grown-ups I think there is nothing much to tell you, you guys need to live a careful life rather pushing the escape button, thinks about your family and friends whenever you get such thoughts.

Students  in IITs’ and the IIMs’ in India and all the other great students in  the world’s best schools there is absolutely reason you should be part of this cowardly act, because we the kids of the normal schools consider you as role-models !

There is so much for you to do to improve yourself, to improve the world and improve the people around you, so what is the fun of quitting your life, are you assured you are going get another life instantaneously? Do you think this is a Mario game?

To be frank with you I do not usually pity the people who kill themselves until and unless there is such a strong reason that his or her life has become unlivable! you may feel I am being rude, but the fact is that we all have problems in life it just takes a little bit of effort to deal with it and I am tough on such people as I want to make them strong.

Please people always remember no one in this world has a right to hurt you and make you feel low, it is just the way you respond to a stimuli that matters.

Please spread this awareness too all the stressed out kids around you and motivate them and try to make them understand the joy of living. Let us try to spread this awareness as a team.

As I always say, Life is sweet living it.

I once again thank my friend for asking me to write this blog for a noble cause.

Thanks for your time, have a great weekend ahead.

Forewarn.

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Hope you all are doing well

If you think everyone listens to you, either you are in an illusion or you are a shepherd

-Anonymous

We all city dwellers should be happy that this time the monsoons in India was a good success, thanks to mother nature it is like the heart for the agriculturists here.It also recharges the ground water which is very essential as we are exploiting the water table without checks and balances.

Well after that short discussion about the monsoon. We can get started with the main discussion today.

I am sure we all have quarreled or had arguments with family, friends, at work and so on.

When you analyze this word argument it comes from the Latin word argūtāre meaning, to prove, assert, accuse.

There is a difference between a fight and an argument which we all understand, fight is you will have a physical episode with a person with or without weapons, and from ancient times it has evolved from the roots of nature for various reasons like survival, dominance and so on.

But argument according to habitat biologists is present only  in the human community.

How many of us have ended up situations where you know what is exactly going wrong with a person, for example he is working on some project and you know that there is a work around available to get it done easily.

But the issue is either you do not know the understandable method to communicate it to him or the other person is too stubborn or resistant to listing to anyone for that matter.

Well if you ask me if this situation is seen often or is it too rare, I can tell you that this is one of the biggest purposes of communication and it is only because of this situation man evolved in this world intellectually.

A communication is a process which involves the people in question the sender and receiver in between these two you have the process of encoding and decoding the message.

In the process of encoding and decoding you also will see the clause of agreement and disagreement.

So when we come back to our question why is it difficult to convince someone?

I think it is a very critical psychological process at the first stage and in the second stage moves to the ego department of our mind, those who believe in soul, which I believe in depends on it too for the competition of one conversation in a fruitful manner.

So there is no reason that the adviser who has delivered the message with all good spirits regret that the receiver did not heed his advice.

It is all pre-programmed without your awareness to be frank.

The receiver has to only encode the message and understand it with a matured soul, so that he will get that good spirited message.

I conclude by saying there is no point arguing or ending a conversation with a disagreement with anyone, because as the conversation progresses your subconscious already knows the end result.

There are people who also a conversation provocative and contend needlessly just for personal joy, never heed your ears to such people.

So guys relax and leave people to experience the joy of hard experiences so that your advice and their learning from that experience finally converge at a point after some point of time which will give rise to the sun of realization and show the right direction to that person who was roaming in darkness of ego and ignorance.

Thanks for your time. Good day.