Benefactor - A ray of hope!

Hello Readers

 

Hope this blog finds you happy and well!

 

Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies. Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier. ... The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.” If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.

-Mother Teresa 

 

The recent events in the world and our lives are revealing a lot about us.

When I say revealing a lot about us, I mean, our qualities.

 

This is a survival situation, our brain is the most sophisticated and robust all-round analyzer available in this world, it can think about multiple things in, numerous dimensions.

 

We are all in a ready to-act mode; we are all very alert and acting according to the situation and the primary task for this year is survival.

 

We all react to situations and also perform actions based on the stimuli, a small instance of what is your first reaction if you listen to a loud thud outside your window.

 

Either you run towards it to find out what happened, or you close your ears and stay indoors and later find out from others.

 

The above example is to explain a typical behavioural pattern.

 

About today’s focus, it’s one of the first areas I used to write about, and I think one of the essential factors which actually drove me towards writing!

 

I started by etching thoughts on behavioural psychology, how I would react if I put myself in certain situations and also the need to stay away from materialism.

 

I wrote a blog sometime back titled what is money?: 

 https://harishmurthy.blogspot.com/2018/12/what-is-money.html it was about using money as an enabler to exchange goods and services and using its productively and not to become a spendthrift or a lavish spender who ponders around all their wealth.

 

Switching gears philanthropy is almost the noblest thing to do in a person’s life and to do that I think first we need to come out of the box.

 

This is the box of selfishness and materialism, we keep filling this box with wealth and more wealth and finally pass it to your progeny and your progeny  will continue to do the same, which leads to wealth duplication, I think is a endless worm hole!

 

Have we thought about the purpose? Why are we acquiring so much wealth which is beyond what we need? Greed, avaricious, no higher thoughts or is it the influence of the society on us.

 

I would say it’s just an individual perspective, its whether you want to do it or don’t want to, simple and clear.

 

Materialistic VS ungreedy

In the process of wealth creation, sometimes we lose direction and sight of where are we heading? And end up happy with our own sweet lives and behave hypocritically when we see a person in pain and struggle, which someone we know is undergoing, and then chant the name of the lord in the evening prayer asking him to shower you and all of whom you identify with peace and prosperity.

 

But do we know there is something even more godly that we can do as humans, why can’t we think of donating, detaching a little bit from our wealth?

 

How many of us have experienced real joy, this is a different type of happiness, only a person who shares his joy and ready to go an extra mile by helping the needy can feel.

 

There lived great people who were ungreedy and have set examples, shown what is to be a have a big heart, I don’t want to mention their names as I cannot cover all of them and that would be unfair, I would leave that you to find out.

 

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In these uncertain times, let’s all try to be a little bit open-minded and help people with how much ever we can and with what we have.

 

Lastly, this helping you do cleanses your soul and adds that grace in you and blessings from the heavens, and the soul that received your help will glow for you always.

 

giving something doesn't always means money, you can spread joy,love, teach few skills to person who lacks it make a tired and sorrow soul feel comfortable.

 

You gain a person’s trust, which almost the rarest thing in the world to earn from someone, I think that is a unique experience by itself.

  

The experience is just magnanimous.

 

Start standing up for people, help them, it will help you! just BEGIN!

 

Be good to people for no reason.

-Anonymous

 

Thanks a lot for your time. Have a good week ahead.

 

Helios.

Newfangled Relationships

Hello reader

Hope you are happy today.

I wish my life had background music so I could understand what the hell is going on.

-Anonymous

So what is happiness according to you? Is it doing what you like, or following your passion says being part of a band, or following your favourite pop star or being part of your favourite sport can be considered happiness. Ok here is question number two: Is falling in love or being a close friend of someone a passion or an experience, should you take responsibility for it? I will try to put down my thoughts about this today.

The times are tense and very dry, people have lost meaning to words like compassion, empathy, care, sympathy and love. Every word which is linked to an emotion or a value is just taken at its face value, and nothing is considered solemn, and above all, there is this one thing which people look at money.

Do you think it can have an impact on a person’s life if you play with a persons' feelings or emotions?

Of course, before I even tell, you know the answer for this is, so sighting that it is a yes, why do people play games around others just to hurt them and make them feel as if they were fools to "believe" in them or “trust” them and finally end up in a hollow mind.

Even though belief and trust are synonymous I see it as comparative and superlative degrees, you first develop the belief in a person which will later become trust which is stronger than belief/faith.

I feel it is more of a psychological game when we think why such ordeals happen.

Think about this if you decide to manipulate someone for your gains and become that “close friend to him or her” or give that new trade name which is a boyfriend, girlfriend or a gig.” 

And once what you accomplish it is achieved sideline that person or start a gossip shows on him or her among your peers and destroy his entire morale is it fair?

I think the person at the receiving end would have had a very tough time digesting all this garbage if he or she is healthy in mind.

Unfortunately, who is very weak and sensitive, end their lives because of this, I don’t think the people who commit suicide are not thinking about their own lives and the people whom they care about before they take that extreme step.

 For all the people who are in weak mind, why do you care for someone who dumped you, be thankful to them because they made you understand that people can do this to you too! And you were not all “so special” to them after all? Do you think your birth just happened as part of a biological process? Of course, not all the cosmos is responsible for your delivery, so please don’t wash it away by just strangling yourself!

For the people who play, manipulate or cheat with their close buddies in the name of love, affection true friendship, bonding, my god! The list of these catchy words is endless! Don’t think you are victorious just because you were successful in what you think was a game plan.

Games are always meant to be both won and lost, next day it will be your turn to suffer and feel broken about it, so it is better you don’t try to invade in somebody’s mind who trusts you, at least then if someone ditched you there will be others who will stand by you and console.

I hope you liked this blog, please let me know your comments and thoughts on this passage.

Remember money lost can always be earned again, but once you lose a person’s trust or his compassion for you I am sure it won't be the same as it was the first time, I think the only exception here can be a mother.

Thanks for your time.

Helios.

Mistreatment of impeccability

Hello reader

There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.

-Denis Waitley

Good day! This blog is actually one among my life experiences, and what I have learned and understood by looking around.The time which we are living today has depleted when compared to the value systems which we had some 20 years ago, even though I am not denying the fact that even at that time there were some black spots, now those spots have changed into a cluster.

There is this famous saying “when money is lost something is lost, but when character lost everything is lost” now I hear sometimes on corporate meetings or you know in satire comedy shows, “If the character is lost nothing is lost, but if money is lost everything is lost!”.

Where are we heading? is there still anything called innocence left? Has everyone become smart in an evil way and aimed at only materialism?

You know this psychology which is going on in India, well not only India even the rest of the world there is a significant increase in materialism and character paralysis which is an epidemic.

What is character paralysis? it is according to me compromising too much of his own self for the sake of society or people or jobs or so on.

But there is a new culture which has come up I would like to call it the art of making people work for you the way it would work out and finally when all that was wanted is done just trashing them like a used tissue.

How many of you have experienced this? I would say yes! If you take a crowd of 100 people I am sure at least 50% of the people would have gone through this.

You would have met this colleague or your classmate who suddenly becomes very close to you and you would also like spending time with him or her and then the list of help and requests begins and finally one day you would realize that unfortunately you were taken advantage of and feel bad about it, when already that person would be already preying on his or her  next victim.

If any of you reading this blog have come across such situations, people and were victims to this cheap act,  do not feel bad  because the person who was responsible would one day again end up with someone more smarter than he or she might  also become victims some other day so do not feel bad, life is a wheel so its only matter of spinning.

Before I end what do we get in becoming parasites on somebody or manipulating someone for our own gains?  this will eventually lead to remorse when all the strength in your body has decreased and you need someone to help you. Live true to your heart take account of how you live, I am not here to ask you to set examples but expect you to maintain a minimum decorum.

Thanks for your time let me know your views in the comment box.

Helios

The counsellor

Hello readers 

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us.

-H. Jackson Brown, Jr. 

Hope you all are doing well. We all live effectively for 40 odd years, surprised? see what Muhammad Ali had to say on life!

 "You live first 10 years of life just to make sense of it, next 15 in your own hitch ups and then move to marital life or any other life so these 40 years are the one which actually count".

He continues to say what you give back to this society in these 40 years is what matters.

Have you visited a counsellor  anytime?  not only for depression or issues relating to your mind, even for educational purposes we visit them, to estimate in which aspect we have the aptitude.

Well that is one way of looking at that profession there is another way this profession is taken into, that is ethical or social counseling.

What is ethical counselling? It  mainly deals with the fine tuning of some moral principles and values which the person is not aware of or has failed to follow due to various factors like personal issues or societal issues.

Social counselling specifically looks at more personal problems of individual, like issues in his family or whatever difficulties he faces on a daily basis when he wants to communicate with people.

Those are the basic definitions of ethical and social counselling.

But there is actually a counsellor within you,  have ever observed for yourself?

It is the same voice which speaks to you when you are angry and tries to calm you down, when you are happy makes you laugh and also try to share it with friends and benefactors.

So who is this sitting inside you and trying to always keep you stable, it is your own intellect, your mind or soul whatever you want to call it.

Among the families across the world, Indian families are considered one of the most successful families no doubt it is true our marraige is a very well planned instituation, but at the same time it has its own problems.

Indians suffer from the problem of ego, and that is almost one of the most damaging factors in a family.

A scientist in Russia once said, family is just like community living where everyone will be provided with similar luxuries and eat at a  common place and mostly the family is best when it is a joint family because it would have various senior people to advise the inexperienced emerging fathers, is how he puts it in his book family: An industry.

But as time has passed the joint family concept in India stands at all time low, so the nuclear families have taken over, but due to egoistic elements in these families we see many traumatic incidents within the family which any member has to bare the brunt. The reason it happens is may be due to the person  is not  considerate to others in the family may have had a rough childhood or he is totally ignorant and arrogant.

Is there a solution of this growing problem which seriously mentally drains other people in the family? and having a direct impact on the future generations.

Of course yes, first the person should think for a while is it correct to do  what he is doing? To him and others this is the self-counselling he should do or others would motivate him to do.

The most important role would be of that particular person in  that family, who has the zeal and the charisma to impress the person in question and help him understand his problems.

This internal Counsellor is present in almost all families and I am telling they are the people who can take the maximum stress and push the family towards heights of success.

I salute to all these special people for being matured at the right moment and help the people around them to ease them in a grim situation caused by someone's silly and stupid behavior for silly things.

So as Mohammad Ali the great boxer said concentrate on those 40 years, what will you do in life other than frowning, grumbling, blaming and making people around you feel sad for your behavior.

Thanks for your valuable time. Adios!

Live happy  always.

Gen Next.

Hello readers

Hope you all are doing great.

When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.

-Ruskin Bond.

The upcoming generations are very much advanced than mine that is one positive take always for today.

But it still it, has its own shortcomings.

So today wanted to talk about some of the needs this generation is lacking and how to cultivate them.

Let us first understand what we are lacking. This generation though way ahead and smarter than mine,

I feel this generation, lacks some key qualities which are required like presence of mind, responsibility and the sense of humour.

I remember my childhood, that was a total time of enjoyment and being happy always. Yes I do agree that the level of happiness cannot remain the same, it differs and completely depend how we approach life, and try to see happiness always and ignore that sad part.

Humour.

But what about, the sense of humour part, come on this generation kids no long smile to a joke they really need, something very amusing to make them smile I mean just smile!

Isn't that sad? , we all know a famous proverb which says laughter is the best medicine! So we just discuss, as to why this current trend are kind of serious, my answer would be well they are more matured than we were, in that age.

That is actually a good point. But do think they are over matured for their age, a recent survey, I read about this on the Internet, and it said yes, there is 32% relative increase, in brain maturity rates and emotional out bursts, which is actually in spoken English means both laughing and crying.

As I told you this is good, but some get over matured and become too serious in life which I feel is not necessary.

Responsibility.

This quality is very important for the success of any individual. Let me be very clear I don't expect small children to take responsibility before even they know how this world works! I am talking about teenagers who are going out of track.

We must all acknowledge the fact that our older generations took more pressures and responsibility, than we are taking now ,which is quite natural ,considering the time lines ,the political and fiscal environments they belonged to .So we must start teaching the values ,like being responsible for his owns actions from a smaller age.

Presence of mind.

This is actually one of the strategies which is followed by greatest people whoever lived  on earth, it is experiencing and living that moment rather than just seeing time!?

People with a good presence of mind are selected in the best schools in the world, and from a professional aspect they are selected by, top investigative agencies in the world like the FBI, CIA, so why is that.

It is because a person with a good presence of mind can take thoughtful decisions, and he lives that moment with commitment. It is sad that the present generations due to the passive environment they live in, If I suppose tell them there is dead crow, they would first see the sky?!Do you think this is stupid ?but I guess its not ,they define it psychology as the passive reflex syndrome ,where kids and young adults lose the ability to keep their presence of mind on ,due to various reasons.

So I want the parents of the Gen next to start, guiding their children to develop all these basic skills of life, rather than just dumping them into top class schools, and just heading out for work and, just meeting that kid at a dinner table, before he or she goes to bed. I guess that is not the correct way to do it.

We as elders need to interact with children and understand their problems, give them responsibilities, as we were given; they say it in a famous proverb “home is the first school”. Therefore we must be a good direction for the Gen next to dream that goal, they might have.

Motivate your kid towards socializing; let him laugh his hearts out.

Let us all understand that ,irrespective of how much we develop ,and improve the way we lead our life, the air we breathe and the ,water we drink won’t change ,until something radical happens to change this, similarly teaching the Gen next to become these confident individuals to lead life on their with minimum help from others is very essential.

Thanks a lot for your time have a great weekend.

All the best