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Hello Readers

How are you today?

I want to share a short story today, this one is not too ancient or too modern it is just what happens in present day, even though I have seen people go through this I would like to trace it out as a story.I Feel it is very important for this message to go out to as many people as possible.

The region of Madikeri also famously is a very famous and beautiful place in Karnataka, there lived a family in the midst of a coffee estate.

It is the family of Mr. Varma who is a successful businessman in the food processing industry.

Maya is  22 years old,  who is Mr. Varma’s daughter who wishes to crack the UPSC exam and wants to serve the Indian administration services.MR Varma’s wife is a homemaker trying to support the family in the best way possible.

So things are working out for this family with new hopes of Mr. Varma to make more profits, his daughter who hopes to clear her exam and so on. But as you know life is like cycle definitely there would be ups and downs!

Similarly, this family started facing issues which started off Mr. Varma’s business taking a U-turn due to certain corrections in the market of this product and some of his key employees quitting his business.

As some of us would be aware there is lot competition in the food processing industry and these were testing times for Mr. Varma.

The repel effect is always not good, in this family it played a key role in setting or rather changing the environment of the house, the house usually gaily and cheerful but now it turned out rather a mellow and dull place due to the pressures of Mr. Varma's  business.

Things became worse when Mr.Varma developed a bad taste for alcohol and started coming home drunk and started behaving in an inappropriate manner destroying the inner peace of Maya and her mother, who were very concerned about him.

Maya whose preparation for the exam was going well could not concentrate now and felt depressed and weak, even though her mother kept her motivated, she failed that exam.

There ends the story! Sorry if you think if it was abrupt, but the message I wanted to convey was told so I just wanted to end it there, so what is the message? Here goes.

A family is like an institution where there is something which goes on a daily basis and in the present scenario a joint family is not to be found very easily and even the nuclear families are like with maximum of four people in a typical case, if there a distortions in the normal flow of thoughts and understanding patterns in a house it will become a huge mental setback for people of the family who more simple or kind  at mind.

The Department of Domestic Violence and family disputes Prevention, USA says half of the families face problems due to parents! Please don’t take me wrong that I am trying to corner parents here, the kids are equally responsible so that other half of the graph is shared by them.

But in the above story which I shared, it is the case where an ambitious aspirant for one of the most difficult exams in the world was doing good and focused, unfortunately, she could succeed due to the lack of mental support at home.

So I would like to push this message to all those parents out there who love their kids, maintain decorum in the front of your kids, please don’t lose your temper in front of them make them feel uncomfortable instead build confidence in their minds, if you have your personal issues or with your wife or husband try to solve it by yourself, until your children are ready to take the heat and help you swim out of it. Stop setting wrong examples in your kid's mind.

In India, family counseling is still considered as the last step as we hesitate to share our personal pains to a stranger, but I tell you it is most required and helps keep a health check of your family bonding.

Let me know your opinion on this blog.

The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.

Thanks a lot for your time, have a great week ahead.

Regards

Helios.

Friends and Friendship- An experience to cherish.

Hello readers

Hope all of you are happy and well.

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.

-Elbert Hubbard

There are certain people in this world who mean something to you, the word something here can be close to you, or you respect them or you consider them as your role model or he or she is your teacher or may be a friend.

Focusing on friends today.

When we are born we know only a few people actually very few, your mom, dad, siblings and some very close relatives, until you learn to speak we would have responded everything with a smile or weep if we don’t like what is presented in front of our half blurred eyesight, as life is very dynamic we grow up and start becoming more social.

In this modern era, the second circle of people we will meet is in our kindergarten or the Montessori or your nanny who will baby sit you if you have working parents.

Then you join a school where you will learn your first steps of group dynamics and group psychology sitting with your classmates that is when you would have heard and learned the word “friend”.

From then on till one day when you become an old man or women carrying a cane you will be with few people or groups of people whom you would be associated with and call them your “friends”.

Are friends important in our lives and what is their part in your life, in your happiness in your sadness and success, do they play a major part, let us discuss?

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For instance let me take my own example I am person who is kind of intellectual and like to interact with people about issues which concern society as well the solutions to resolve them and always think about how better can the place where I live around to be made better for others as well as me, and I am person who loves animals ok, to keep it simple I am a rationalist and an animal welfarist.

So when I meet a person my perception towards him to consider him as my friend and think if he can get along with me would be the above-mentioned criteria, which we know as what we call it as like-mindedness.

Like my example, I know you all will also have a certain criteria when you meet people and try to understand them, for me If I meet someone who hates animals and is more materialistic I would keep my distance from him or her, definitely it's not that we have personal grudge towards each other but it is simply not just try to be with him or her and then have quarreled and broken away which is not the solution for any problem.

The summary for the above two paras is that we need to choose our friends very carefully, because the sad part is many of the people in the world actually don’t have real friends, I know all your eyebrows are up now and you want me to prove how am I so confident will try to assimilate  my argument.

See friendship is actually considered above all relationships except for that relationship of a mother and child.

Therefore it is supposed to be a very joyful and truthful one isn't it? But actually just think right now as you are reading this how many of your own people whom you think are close friends are ready be there for you or you are ready to be there for them I am sorry I am not trying to doubt your friendship but  truth is bitter, even though the answer is entirely not negative to be frank it is positive most of the time as every one of us will have at least few friends who are there for us for life and likewise.

The last two lines of the previous paragraph are the real friends.

But still, there are few people who will never get any help from anyone which is sad.

See friendship according to me is not just the peers whom you study irrespective of your school or college and you develop that closeness with them as you would have helped them and they help you back in various academic and personal issues, if that person continues to be in the same mood and reserves that position for you even after a long time that you can tell he wants to be a real friend to you.

See it is basically when you meet someone and you spend some time with them, you will realize your minds match, that is when you establish rapport but will this bond be strong depends on both of you.

I am blessed to have some very good friends in my life, but I tell you I have only a few, which I am glad, and please I don’t believe in this online friendship given to us by Facebook and various other social media sites, even though many of you may feel it is very legitimate I don't feel so because  consonance as deeper meaning than just chatting on a portal.

The friends group you are in your  life will play some part in shaping you as an individual, if we  have a  weak character we may get carried away in doing bad deeds and becoming hero in a wrong way, always be careful about what your friends intend to do and stay away if it is against your principles and what you believe is right.

Indian Society and friends.

I am specifically commenting on this because Indian society and  Indian psychology have some concerns which have to change, there are some mediocre people who judge friendships especially if your close friend is an opposite sex, can you believe this! Why should there be a gossip about such things and people just making stuff up, are we so jobless worrying about others affairs, this is seriously bad for Indian society,  let us all try to put some sense to such people who think if you are friend of good looking man, or if a women’s best friend is a beautiful man some folks  keep on spreading nonsense around which are totally useless, we need to change this trend. 

Friendship is heavenly and is actually understanding a person and his problems and helping that person to swim out of it and being part of his or joys which will be gladly returned by your friend that is friendship it is above materialism for sure, we all should enjoy this experience until we live, and build your friends  and set a goal so that all of you and your friends can work towards it and do something better for this world, which will help the have-nots.

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Thank you all my dear friends who have always helped me and accepting me as I am.

let me know your thoughts and feedback in the comment box.

Thanks for your time, until next time goodbye.